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AIBU?

to wonder what the fuck i am supposed to do

147 replies

orangeflute · 24/11/2012 11:46

Oh just rang me from work to say he has to work next weekend, which would be fine IF we weren't moving house. I have absolutely no idea what I am going to do.AIBU?

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LadyMaryChristmas · 24/11/2012 11:50

I moved house by myself (single parent). You can do it! Have you packed? Are you using a removal company? Have you notified the utilities etc? Call some friends and see if they can lend a hand.

Don't panic! Wine

McChristmasPants2012 · 24/11/2012 11:51

It will be fine, have you got any help at all

JaxTellerIsMyFriend · 24/11/2012 11:52

rope in friends, family, acquaintances and get packing. It can be done.

fedupofnamechanging · 24/11/2012 11:53

Do you have a removal firm booked?

Tbh, I would be mad at dh for not booking the time off and if he has booked the time off, then he should refuse to work (unless it is one of those jobs like police, where leave can be cancelled).

Can he get someone to swop with him/appeal to boss's better nature?

orangeflute · 24/11/2012 11:55

I have no help and can't afford a removal company not everything is packed. 5 children as well to sort out. The only friend I could ask is working overtime to get extra cash for Christmas. I have a serious panic on.

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LadyMaryChristmas · 24/11/2012 11:57

How were you going to move everything? Get your children to help with the packing, 6 pairs of hands are better than 1.

valiumredhead · 24/11/2012 11:58

So is he seriously expecting you to shift boxes and furniture onto a van while looking after 5 kids AND unpack the other end?!

MainlyMaynie · 24/11/2012 11:58

If you can afford it, get the removal company to pack and unpack. We found that by shopping around we could get a removal company to do all of it for the same price as others were quoting for just a move. Send children elsewhere for the day. Put wine in fridge. Be living in other house when DH returns from work. He won't have keys, so depending on how it goes you can choose whether to let him in or not.

McChristmasPants2012 · 24/11/2012 11:59

move what you can and get the DC to help, wait for DP to come home to do the big heavy lifting.

Start packing today, what i did was moved DD into my bedroom and used her room to store all the boxes.

MainlyMaynie · 24/11/2012 12:00

Oops, cross post. Your only choice is physical violence against him or his boss.

McChristmasPants2012 · 24/11/2012 12:01

Does he really have to work.

MrsGhastlyCrumb · 24/11/2012 12:01

Man with a van is often the best/cheapest option. Try to get one with a large capacity van, as they tend to charge by the hour (I'm assuming you're not going far, though...).

If that isn't an option, I think I would refuse to move on that date unless your partner sorts out some help for you.

MrsRogerSterling · 24/11/2012 12:02

What does your OH suggest you do?

pictish · 24/11/2012 12:03

Does he HAVE to work? Moving house is huge. That's a not-going-to-work day.

orangeflute · 24/11/2012 12:07

I can't really get all the children to help as one is a toddler and one 5 months. The other there could maybe do something. I have sickness and diarrhea at moment so am struggling a bit.
OH didn't address the issue and just said he didn't have a choice.

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Whoknowswhocares · 24/11/2012 12:07

If he cannot be at home for a pre-arranged specific job ie.moving then it is his responsibility to provide an alternative! Agree with the poster who said ask HIM for the solution. Is he getting overtime? Does he contractually have to do the work or is he taking the path of least resistance? Could he negotiate with boss for them to advance him the overtime to pay for the van or suchlike. Could you defer moving (unlikely but worth considering)

LadyMaryChristmas · 24/11/2012 12:08

Be careful with a man with a van. I moved in June, for some reason the idiots decided to take my 'flat pack' coffee table and TV cabinet to pieces as they 'fell to bits because they was cheap' in the transit. Problem was, that the coffee table wasn't flat pack. They had unscrewed the top and snapped one of the ends off it (it was screwed in, and secured with industrial strength glue). I did manage to repair it, the top's still loose though. I don't consider £100 to be cheap for a coffee table. Hmm I also had to pay a proper removal company to bring the rest of our things to our new house as they left a fair amount of stuff. It would have been cheaper to use the removal company without the van man.

Where about in the UK are you? Someone may be able to recommend someone.

LadyMaryChristmas · 24/11/2012 12:10

Oh, if that's the case then tell him you're not moving unless he takes the day off and helps you.

ScrambledSmegs · 24/11/2012 12:11

Well since this is a problem of his making he should fix it. Not you.

CrazyChristmasLady · 24/11/2012 12:13

Tell him he either tells work he cannot work on that day as he forgot he was moving, or he pays for removal van.

You cannot do it yourself while he buggers off to work.

ENormaSnob · 24/11/2012 12:15

5 kids inc baby and toddler Shock

Not a prayer I'd be moving with no help.

What does your dh do?

PuppyMonkey · 24/11/2012 12:16

OH didn't address the issue...?GrinHmm

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orangeflute · 24/11/2012 12:17

We are in south yorkshire and this is our second moving date. The first had to be cancelled because he couldn't get time off work

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PuppyMonkey · 24/11/2012 12:18

I assume he is a brain surgeon or something equally vital.

orangeflute · 24/11/2012 12:18

He's a department manager in a large well known supermarket.

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