Religion was IBU(58 Posts)
She was very, very rude. I'm an atheist (though I do believe in donkeys) but I would never spout crap like this anywhere - not in the office, not among family and friends. You have every right to feel hurt, she is the kind of evangelical atheist I have no time for.
Your colleagues don't sound very nice either. I wouldn't hand in notice over this, but I might start quietly looking for something else - not over the religious stuff, but over the fact that no-one spoke up for you and that there seems to be a bullying atmosphere in your office.
I am catholic and thing ywb a bit u.
She is obviously a bit of a tit. I am also a biologist and get stabby when thickos start talking about evolution as though they understand it when really they just heard some smuggity, smug comedian use the word on the TV. Donkeys didn't exist 2000 years ago? What a facinsating hiccup of the molecular clock that they are around now then
However, you are behaving like this is the first time you have ever heard someone banging off about how awful catholicism is. And you are British and Catholic? And on MN ? This has really never happened to you before?!
FYI Catholics do believe in evolution. It's only people who are poorly scientifically and theologically educated that think otherwise.
You're thinking of quitting your job over a religious disagreement??
Out of interest, did that ignorant cow think that donkeys were put on earth by extra terrestrials in the middle ages? Or did they evolve from horses recently? Or did they maybe crawl up on a beach somewhere?
It is ludicrous to think donkeys did not exist a couple of thousand years ago. What animals have evolved since the Human Race learnt to write and document what is happening?
Sounds like she's an idiot FACT. People who try to cut off any response that way usually are FACT.
Tell her to keep her stupid opinions to herself FACT.
If someone is spouting off some rubbish I disagree with I either just keep quiet and ignore it or challenge and discuss it with them in a reasonable way. Whether or not she's an idiot is actually irrelevant. I think YABU to try and close her down by saying she is being "disrespectful". I utterly loathe this approach to modern debating and it is completely anti-intellectual. We will never get anywhere in society as long as people keep playing the "I'm offended, please shut up" card. What does it matter if you find it "rude"? What relevance does that have at all? She was not attacking you personally, but an idea that you believe in. You need to have more balls to either stand up for what you believe in, or ignore what she's saying.
And to the person who said approach the Equality and Diversity team - ARGH!!!!!
jeanvaljean the OP was at work trying to do her job! That's no place or time for a theological discussion, even if she wanted one.
She has every right to shut this woman up.
I'm a Christian, and I would have just let it slide.
Arguing with some people is not worth it. Ignorance (on her part) is a bit of a power-trip and she likely wouldn't have listened to common sense.
Don't leave your job.
Maybe go to Answers in Genesis and point her to something that might educate her.
Maybenow. Thanks for that. Can I ask, do you know how that belief in evolution is married with man being created in God's image? I'm not trying to be antagonistic - am interested (and quite ignorant about Catholic belief!).
OP - she was being unreasonable. I don't think there's anything wrong with atheists talking about what they believe as part of a normal conversation or discussion, but it sounds as though she was just doing this to annoy/upset you and get in your face. Particularly inappropriate in the work environment.
man being created in God's image
You are taking it literally - man = mankind, which includes all the human species.
No donkeys 2000 years ago? How fast does she think evolution works?!
Sometimes you have to agree to disagree, particularly over religion. I'm an atheist fundamentalist BTW.
Donkeys did exist but are not mentioned in the New Testament until Jesus rode one into somewhere - I think Jerusalem - long time since I read it.
Just ignore her, it is rare you can discuss beliefs without it becoming an argument.
You seriously took this shit as a serious conversatation?
i'm atheist but i would never have done what she did! she was incredibly rude to continure talking when you told her you weren't interested. dont leave your job. she's an idiot. jsut ignore her infuture. if she keeps it up speak to your manager. she doesn't have a right to force her belief on you or anyone else.
Yes, it's surmountable to harrassment really. Discrimination on grounds of sexual, religious, race, etc etc
If I was sober I could quote it.... but sadly I've had
I've met more people who try to change my mind about my faith than I have people who preach. Drives me up the wall! I would never try to force my beliefs onto someone else, we have the same rights to believe what we do as each other, yet the way I get treated just because I am a Christian is ridiculous! I prefer to keep my discussion to people who are genuinely interested - either talking for example to my uncle who's a Christian scientist and I find the stuff he knows quite fascinating, or to other Christians about something I've read and found interesting, or to someone who isn't a Christian but isn't talking about something to ridicule. I don't see the point in getting into a discussion that's set up to ridicule me.
I know what you mean about appearing like the religious nut, I hate that feeling too. Hopefully the same situation won't come up again but as you've spoken to your manager already it should be easier to deal with next time. Don't give up your job.
Well, there are lots of good reasons not to believe the Biblical account of the nativity story, but the lack of donkeys 2000 years ago isn't one of them.
I'll start again!
Op you are NBU to not want to discuss your faith with a colleague. That is your decision absolutely, and swbu to try and force the issue.
But oh wow. I've just had a quick look at the answers from genesis website posted. I looked at one page and it was laughable. It was so chock full of assumptions and falsehoods about what atheism is, I really wouldn't know where to start.
Taking a politicians stance (vote for me because he is worse) in order to justify their religion, and filling the 'he is worse because...' sentance with giant leaps of illogic really doesn't help their cause!
(but as I said, I only read one page - others may be better)
the issue is aggression at work, the subject is irrelevant. So you should indeed have reported her for that, well done.
no beliefs or faiths deserve respect - why should what she thinks matter to you? - but PEOPLE deserve respect and that means not starting an argument in a place where someone can't walk away from it.
I'm an atheist and was immensely pissed off by a visit from the JWs the other day - but as I was at home all I had to do was slam the door. You didn't have that opportunity.
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