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about the word "frape"??

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BunnyLeBOOwski Mon 19-Nov-12 18:58:54

Logged onto FB this morning and was subjected to no less than 3 posts including this odious word.

In a fit of pique I posted a status along the lines of "For the love of God people, please stop using the word "frape". It makes you look insensitive and uneducated".

I know, I know, FB is the work of the devil and I shouldn't care but these are otherwise vaguely intelligent people and it is a hateful word is it not??

Or is it a harmless word and I'm overreacting?

Disclaimer: I'm at best pre-menstrual, at worst preggo so I may just be a tad snippier than usual blush.

SantyClaws Mon 19-Nov-12 19:00:38

sorry if i'm being thick but what does it mean?

BunnyLeBOOwski Mon 19-Nov-12 19:02:24

Facebook Rape i.e. when someone else gains access to a friend's FB and posts "I love bumsex I do".


Alisvolatpropiis Mon 19-Nov-12 19:03:47

I think yabu, well a bit.

The dictionary definition of rape :

1. The crime of forcing another person to submit to sex acts, especially sexual intercourse.
2. The act of seizing and carrying off by force; abduction.
3. Abusive or improper treatment; violation: a rape of justice.

So "frape" would be a corruption of number 3 not a dismissal of number 1.

SantyClaws Mon 19-Nov-12 19:05:55

pfft that's cringetastic grin

i used to work somewhere where you couldn't nip to the loo without locking your computer or you'd come back to a sent box asking half the office out or telling them you love them.

used to drive me potty

so on the whole YANBU

Anonymumous Mon 19-Nov-12 19:17:19

Gosh, I thought you meant rape by a friend / date rape. blush Shows what I know!

Kalisi Mon 19-Nov-12 19:25:24

Although I am sure there will be a few people that will argue very passionately that you are not.

AnyFucker Mon 19-Nov-12 19:26:16

I would judge

Alisvolatpropiis Mon 19-Nov-12 19:27:42

Why would you judge AF?

The dictionary definition of the word is upthread. They're not doing anything wrong in using the word.

Kalisi Mon 19-Nov-12 19:30:03

Hmmm, last post did not come across as I'd intended. I mean that I have heard quite a few people express their distaste at the word 'frape' so you are not alone. I do not personally believe there is a problem with it but those that do seem to feel more strongly than those that don't IYSWIM

AnyFucker Mon 19-Nov-12 19:30:58

I would judge because it is crass and ignorant.

Do you really think these people have checked the "correct" dictionary definition, or do you think they are using the word ill advisedly because of ignorance?

I am going with the latter

BeerTricksPott3r Mon 19-Nov-12 19:33:32

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Alisvolatpropiis Mon 19-Nov-12 19:34:05

Rape has never been used exclusively for forced sex.

It doesn't really matter whether they know or not does it,as there is one dictionary definition and the usage falls into one of them.

Why presume people don't know and are ignorant anyway?

ratbagcatbag Mon 19-Nov-12 19:35:04

Don't like it either, and pull people up on it.

HoratiaWinwood Mon 19-Nov-12 19:35:10

Dictionary doesn't tell you what people in general think a word means, otherwise you would happily describe your child's new yellow wellies as "gay".

We have enough problems of a social misunderstanding of what rape is, without further muddying the waters by using the word casually and figuratively. We can say that Girls Aloud "murdered" a tune because they are criminally talentless and everyone knows what murder is.

MrsHelsBels74 Mon 19-Nov-12 19:35:43

I hate it, but then I usually have my judgey pants hoiked up to my chin anyway.

kinkyfuckery Mon 19-Nov-12 19:35:58

I know the word 'rape' has alternative meaning other than non-consensual sex, but I too don't like it being bandied around in respect to Facebook posts.

FromEsme Mon 19-Nov-12 19:36:13

Hate the word. It doesn't really matter what the dictionary definition is, it's perfectly obvious which meaning they are referring to.

I also think people who engage in this tedious practice are arseholes of the highest order who need to get a grip.

SchroSawMummyRidingSantaClaus Mon 19-Nov-12 19:37:21

This thread has been done umpteen times before.

YANBU for thinking it's a horrible word but it's actually used in the correct context so YABU a bit.

Cozy9 Mon 19-Nov-12 19:37:28

You can't fix the meaning of a word, or tell people how to use it. Trying to do so just makes people use it in the way you don't like even more.

Alisvolatpropiis Mon 19-Nov-12 19:38:03

But language evolves Horatia. As proven by your example of gay and saying Girls Aloud "murdered" a song.

Frape has passed into common parlance whether one finds it offensive or not,I don't think it's going to be going to disappear any time soon.

SchroSawMummyRidingSantaClaus Mon 19-Nov-12 19:40:44

Kinky I don't like the word but why? There is another meaning for the word but people shouldn't use it because it's also used to describe something horrible?

I have heard plenty of people on here say things along the lines of "I could murder the kids" or "I could murder a pizza" etc. There really isn't any difference except one is used in the correct context and is deemed as disrespectful and the other isn't but is acceptable.

It's quite confusing actually.

SchroSawMummyRidingSantaClaus Mon 19-Nov-12 19:41:13

X posts.

HoratiaWinwood Mon 19-Nov-12 19:43:37

Language has always been used figuratively. I'm a minor language development expert, BTW, having a degree in Linguistics.

Putting childish comments on someone else's FB isn't anything like forcing a sex act on them, even figuratively. Hijacked is a more appropriate phrase as it is closer in meaning.

But it is part of the social misunderstanding and denial and belittling of rape, and the persistence of rape myths, that lets people use the word so casually and inaccurately.

"Fraping" is often funny and almost always the victim's fault. Still defend use of the word?

BunnyLeBOOwski Mon 19-Nov-12 19:46:43

Well said Horatia.

And as AF says, I highly doubt that these people are researching the definition before using.

It's just another little word that perpetuates the rape culture we live in. And I just can't see that as harmless.

DP agrees and suggest 'facejack' as an alternative.

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