Nearly a year ago my dh oldest friend moved from one end of the country to the other to live in the village we live in. It wasn't to be near us, it was just fluke that a new job was in the nearest town and he liked the village we live in. He knew/knows nobody and lives alone with no girlfriend etc.
We have him over for dinner every week on a Thursday. He drinks a lot and when he is with us drinks well over a bottle of wine to himself. We always drink 2 bottles of wine. My dh doesn't drink and I have 1 or 2 glasses max., the rest is drunk by our friend.
At first he brought a bottle of wine along each time he came. However, after a few weeks I told him not to worry as he will be with us so regularly that he shouldn't worry. My perspective was that a weekly mid week meal with us is quite low key, nothing grand and I wasn't expecting to drink alcohol each week. However, I didn't realise how much he 'liked a drink' and he will ask for a glass of wine.
He is a maths wizz and since this September has come to our house earlier than normal every fortnight or so and works with one of our children on their maths. The lesson lasts about half an hour. He then joins my dh and I for an evening meal - with 2 bottles of wine.
This Sunday we invited him and a couple of other friends for a roast. We don't normally see him at the weekends as we are busy with our 3 children's activities etc. I made a big effort and the beef alone was over £23! The other friends came with wine and chocolates, he turned up empty handed.
I am in mixed minds over whether I am unreasonable to expect a bottle of wine. I have spoken to my dh and he agrees with me that it was quite rude to turn up with nothing.
However, firstly, he is a very old friend. Secondly, I did specifically say not to bring wine along each week. Thirdly, he is working with one of our children on their maths on a regular basis (although not weekly as he isn't able to come to us early enough).
I have tried offering him tea and coffee when he comes on a Thursday but he responds with a smile (I think he thinks I am joking) and says he'd rather a glass of wine.
However, 2 bottles of wine a week is ending up quite expensive! I belong to a wine club and get a crate of wine each quarter; it doesn't last!
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pingu2209 · 19/11/2012 08:09
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