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To be saddened by teenagers of today

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dinkybinky Sun 18-Nov-12 16:09:25

Ive just been having a conversation with my niece. Apparently its the norm nowadays to "get with" (kiss)as many boys as possible at teenage parties. Parents even supply alcohol to 14/15 year olds.
Girls like this were called awful names if they behaved in such a way when I was at school, whats changed to make it acceptable?

Witchety Sun 18-Nov-12 17:04:26

Dangers?? Meant swingers !!

FromEsme Sun 18-Nov-12 17:05:52

Swingers clubs I'd say are more about people going specifically to partner swap and have sex.

The places I go to are more about having a laugh and dancing but sex goes on as well.

TheOneWithTheHair Sun 18-Nov-12 17:06:06

I think you're being deliberately obtuse now dinky.

Narked Sun 18-Nov-12 17:06:07

I hate to break it to you OP, but kissing is nice. So is groping. And it's still nice if you don't know the person's favourite colour.

What exactly do you think is wrong with girls kissing several boys???

SchrodingersSexKitten Sun 18-Nov-12 17:06:10

I am in my forties and never kissed random boys when I was a teenager.

I didn't want to and the opportunity never presented itself.

At 16, I started going out with a boy, after a few dates we snogged, then after a few months we had sex.

I thought that was normal?

NamingOfParts Sun 18-Nov-12 17:07:00

Some do, some dont. Their bodies, their choices.

I find the OP's handwringing generalisations about teenagers more than a little patronising and offensive.

Tee2072 Sun 18-Nov-12 17:07:21

There is an app for that!!!!

AKissIsNotAContract Sun 18-Nov-12 17:09:12

Oh FFS witchety, do you really think women only want casual sex if they are being paid for it?

Esme, you are fast becoming my new favourite poster smile

hobnobsaremyfave Sun 18-Nov-12 17:09:45

I am more and more convinced today that we have been invaded.

Tee2072 Sun 18-Nov-12 17:11:08

Actually...there are several apps for that!

TheOneWithTheHair Sun 18-Nov-12 17:12:00

And Apps for Truth or Dare!

Tee2072 Sun 18-Nov-12 17:12:01

You've never heard of sex clubs? Where did you grow up? Narnia?

Witchety Sun 18-Nov-12 17:12:33

akiss what ate you on about?? Where did I mention being paid?

Tee2072 Sun 18-Nov-12 17:12:36


There really are apps for everything!

KenDoddsDadsDog Sun 18-Nov-12 17:12:56

There is some right random shit on here this weekend.

Narked Sun 18-Nov-12 17:13:27

Everyone does things their own way Schrodingers. I didn't have sex at 16 but fake IDed my way into clubs every weekend at that age and spent glorious hours locking faces with random strangers. Attractive random strangers. I didn't want a boyfriend.

Witchety Sun 18-Nov-12 17:13:50

Thanks for explaining the difference between a swingers club and a sex club esme !

Narked Sun 18-Nov-12 17:14:38

Narnia was fairly misogynistic.

FromEsme Sun 18-Nov-12 17:15:17

Tis just my definition, Witchety . I'm sure for some there's no difference. But swingers clubs have never interested me at all.

AKissIsNotAContract Sun 18-Nov-12 17:15:17

Witchety: you mentioned brothels. I know you're terribly naive but surely even you know that women get paid in brothels?

lovebunny Sun 18-Nov-12 17:15:27

meningitis. how do you spell it? don't know but one way you can put yourself at risk is by random and multiple snogging.

kissing people isn't the end of the world (unless you die from it, obv). kissing a few boys/girls/both at a party should be ok for people of fifteen. long, sleazy, gropey hours in corners - no.

alcohol at fifteen, at home? in a party supervised by adults? well, if drinking alcohol is part of your culture, you have to learn how to do it. i'd provide low-alcohol drinks and make them all lock their coats and bags in one room so that they couldn't get to the half-bottles of vodka they brought with them. providing bottles of spirits for an underage,unsupervised group in a hall is probably illegal, and if not, it should be.

morality today, standards, setting a good example? yes, there are issues.

saw a young teenage girl on the bus yesterday - skin tight pale pink trousers put everything on show - not safe. but she was with her mum - who was bleached blonde with a lycra mini skirt and leather jacket. might have been a prostitute, might have just thought that was a fun way to dress. no way to tell without knowing them. that's what the daughter has as a role model for style - but they were out together, they might be 100% respectable and caring, just dress in a way that i wouldn't want for me or a child of mine.

i didn't do the partying thing either as a teenager or as a young adult. i got married, divorced and still didn't.
my daughter didn't do the partying thing - she got married - they're still together. i like our way but apparently, it wouldn't suit everyone.

FromEsme Sun 18-Nov-12 17:15:40

That was the OP, not Witchety , Akiss

LaCiccolina Sun 18-Nov-12 17:16:04

Personally I'm not half as saddened by the teenagers as I often am about the 25-45 group....

And I'm in that!

dinkybinky Sun 18-Nov-12 17:16:46

The places I go to are more about having a laugh and dancing but sex goes on as well.

I've never heard of those types of clubs. Honestly I'm interested to hear more. Are you talking about lap dancing clubs?

FromEsme Sun 18-Nov-12 17:16:50

Er, why is a young girl not safe wearing trousers?

For fucks sake.

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