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to be annoyed by grown adults who say they can't cook?

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Mintyy Sun 18-Nov-12 14:47:25

I don't think I am.

It just makes me think that the person saying as much is a little bit useless.

IslaLettuce Tue 10-Jan-17 21:15:42

It seems very childish when people say they can't cook. Surely it's one of those basics that you learn, sew a button on, balance your finances, get a pension etc

OliviaStabler Tue 10-Jan-17 20:24:00


Frazzled2207 Tue 10-Jan-17 20:20:14

it's a bit rubbish, however my dad has literally never cooked because he never had to. went pretty much from living with his mum to living with mine, who had provided him with 3 meals a day every day since 1974. Despite working full time herself most of that time. So he never really had the motivation to learn!

Frazzled2207 Tue 10-Jan-17 20:20:11

it's a bit rubbish, however my dad has literally never cooked because he never had to. went pretty much from living with his mum to living with mine, who had provided him with 3 meals a day every day since 1974. Despite working full time herself most of that time. So he never really had the motivation to learn!

YesThisIsMe Tue 10-Jan-17 20:10:54

What is this? International Resurrect a Zombie Thread Day?

MNHQ, you have got to do something about this!

glueandstick Tue 10-Jan-17 20:07:21

You've just reminded me that there is a spag bol on the hob. It's been hours.....

Secretlythesame Tue 10-Jan-17 20:01:50

YABU. I can't cook very well. Nothing 'gels' for me, so I can't understand what ingredients would go well together, how things should taste, when to tell if things are done properly. I don't have any imagination regarding meals. I don't enjoy cooking. I could follow a recipe but I would find it arduous. I prepare meals in that I follow instructions for heating things up, I boil pasta and add sauce and so on.

I do get a little irritated by DH who is similar to me except he just doesn't make any effort whatsoever. If he HAS to prepare the meal (if, for example, I'm out for the evening) it's toast or takeaway. He simply makes no effort, sees cooking as a complete waste of his time.

We are a lawyer and a city banker btw so I'm not sure about 'useless' in general but pretty useless in the kitchen, yes.

I do worry about our DS not growing up with good role models regarding food and cooking though. Also because I'm determined to bake his birthday cake and god only knows how it will taste.

chatnanny Tue 10-Jan-17 19:00:40

Each to their own. I was always interested and used to take over from my mother. DH has no interest and would happily live on fish fingers. Even those he serves raw on one side burnt on the other. To me it's a relaxation and a joy.

madcatwoman61 Tue 10-Jan-17 18:53:15

My mother hated cooking and did not encourage us to be in the kitchen. No cookery at school either. I can cook enough to keep myself alive but have no interest in it. I married a good cook and my children (adult) cook well with enthusiasm - There are many other things I can do well though!

HollyTV Tue 10-Jan-17 13:58:19

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GrendelsMum Tue 20-Nov-12 14:30:47

Yorkshire pudding with syrup and cream = truly excellent pudding

squoosh Tue 20-Nov-12 13:03:25

Yorkshire pudding = Food of the Gods.

justmyview Tue 20-Nov-12 13:01:25

For Yorkshire puddings - you need to heat up fat in the muffin tray for 5 minutes until it's really hot, fill up the tray fast (so it doesn't cool down) and don't open the oven once they're cooking. If you do, they'll sink.

You can freeze them and then reheat from frozen another time. Good to make them in advance in case they don't work!

Bonsoir Tue 20-Nov-12 08:15:47

YADNBU. Cooking (or rather catering - meal planning, shopping, cooking, serving) is, frankly, a basic life skill that all adults ought to grasp.

GalaxyDefender Tue 20-Nov-12 08:10:20

I can follow a recipe. But I don't consider that "being able to cook", that's just following instructions, it's hardly difficult!

Being able to cook, to me, means being like my mum - being able to just look at a cupboard of ingredients and go "I can make this, this and that". And then do it without recipes or any sort of outside help.
The only thing I can make like that is pancakes grin And even then it's hit and miss! So I don't think I can cook, really.

brighthair Tue 20-Nov-12 01:52:23

I'd love to teach people how to cook blush
That probably sounds weird but I've helped a few friends and seeing how much they enjoyed it and found it easier than they thought made me happy
I'm not great, I learnt from my Mum and growing up in pubs. I can follow a recipe and make things without recipes. Not good with unfamiliar ingredients but I will give it a go grin

Monty27 Tue 20-Nov-12 00:58:34

I can't be assed to cook.

Nobody starves in here, but gourmet it is not. grin

AudrinaAdare Tue 20-Nov-12 00:12:03

My DD is in year eight and has another 18 months before cooking lessons are over unless she takes it for GCSE and ALL she has made is puddings. Oh, and a french bread pizza hmm

Given the economic climate and future health issues it is more important than ever that the next generation know how to put together a basic balanced meal. I do agree that cookery has been poncerised as well.

Frizzbonce shock at your Dad. Your poor Mum sad

kdiddy Mon 19-Nov-12 23:56:28

I firmly believe that, given time and motivation, anyone could learn a basic handful of recipes that they could then cook on rotation. It is not difficult but it does take practice. Thing is though, if you don't enjoy cooking, that's just not going to happen. It's a life skill, and it takes time to learn, so as an adult, if you can't cook well, it's going to take a fair bit of time and effort to learn and you just might not be arsed. In the same way I know I should learn some basic car maintenance, but find it shit boring, so I'm not going to bother.

This is why I totally agree it is ideal for children to learn the basics whilst they're young though - so they always know enough to look after themselves, and can build on that if they develop an interest in cooking.

FWIW I love cooking and am obsessed with buying cookbooks - but they all assume differing level of basic knowledge and competence so a novice cook could get put off if they pick up the wrong one. I've always found Jamie Oliver recipes simple, easy and really tasty (except 30 minute meals which I actually think you need a decent level of competence to start with)

whois Mon 19-Nov-12 23:34:58

My mum is a really good cook. BUT she can't cook Yorkshire pudding! Always tuned out like pancakes...

Frizzbonce Mon 19-Nov-12 23:05:16

Kerala Absolutely! I've known several men who say they 'can't' cook or they do it but deliberately mess it up because 'you do it so much better'. And yes, you need someone to enable them to behave in this twattish manner but it's one of my bugbears too. My dad would have starved in a well equipped kitchen. Just after mum was recovering from cancer dad phoned me because he was making her beans on toast in the kitchen of the home he had lived in for forty years and rang ME because being a woman I'd just know by ovarian satnav where the kitcheny stuff was. I didn't know so he shouted 'Mary! Where's the beans!' up the stairs to my cancer striken mum. She shouted back down where it was. Two minute later he was shouting up the stairs: 'Where's the bread?'

But I know men of our generation who think cooking has nothing to do with them as well. I know one bloke who put ginger into spaghetti bolognaise for fuck sake. Spag bog is practically the first thing you learn to cook - it's not POSSIBLE to fuck it up but he managed. I ask my friend: 'He can read - why can't he follow a recipe?' And she says: 'Oh he'd manage to ruin it ho ho ho.'

One of the things I love about my DP is that he cooks. Not as a Big Favour but because we're partners and I'm not his mother and he's not a child.

HoratiaWinwood Mon 19-Nov-12 22:50:19

Aren't Yorkshires supposed to rise? Isn't that the whole point?

I make mine in a bun tin.

<has missed something>

mamamibbo Mon 19-Nov-12 22:15:38

i make everything, all meals, bread, cakes etc for my family (thats how i feed 6 on £70 a week) apart from yorkshire puddings, despite actually being from yorkshire i annot make them, ive never made a proper one, they rise like buns

CharlieCoCo Mon 19-Nov-12 22:08:33

I so agree about the whole boiling an egg-good cook.

I consider myself a good cook, can do a range of home made food and even indian food after working for an indian family. I cant boil an egg to save my life! It just wont go hard, i even forgot about it once, it was boiling for 20 mins it should have been solid and it still had a bit of drippy white.
I was so proud when at the grand age of 29 i made my first poached egg and fried egg and my dad was like really, you have gone 29 years without being able to do thatshock well maybe if i ws allowed to cook as a teen instead of banned "in case i burn the house down" i would be able to, instead i had to self-teach when i became a nanny and children relied on me to feed them!

GrendelsMum Mon 19-Nov-12 20:37:56

Do you want to know a cracking example? BiL 'can't' cook - so last time that I was there, helping out with DN one day because my DSiL was ill, BiL expected ME to cook him his meals! I looked at him absolutely gobsmacked.

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