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Aibu to think men never truly Grow Up?!!!

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pumpkinsweetie Thu 15-Nov-12 21:38:44

Having a dh that must have what HE wants, when HE wants and if HE doesn't get it he stomps his feets & sulks for days!!!
HE has to have the latest game/console/chair etc, etc even before i have finished my christmas shopping and then today he's told me HE expects a £300 gaming chair if he gets a job!!-WTAF is wrong with his self entitled arse?
Apparently i have welshed on 'OUR' deal as i said he could have it 'ages' ago apparently-(not realising he meant a £300 one, i thought he meant a cheapo one)!
So he is basing his enthusiasium on maybe getting a job for a fucking gaming chair.
Aibu to think he should grow the fuck up?, especially as it will be a mw job and we won't be able to afford it?

peppercold Thu 15-Nov-12 21:40:57

yanbu!! tell him to use a normal chair!

FermezLaBouche Thu 15-Nov-12 21:42:46

Some men, like this one, never grow up. Or to put it more accurately are selfish knobs.

Many men are normal human beings who see their partners as equals and wouldn't fuck them off by acting so selfishly and petulantly .

All depends on what you are willing to put up with for the rest of your life.

pumpkinsweetie Thu 15-Nov-12 21:43:55

What makes me laugh about this entire senario is that he already has a gaming chair, but according to him it isn't good enoughshock

littlewhitebag Thu 15-Nov-12 21:45:21

What in the world is a gaming chair?

Tactifer Thu 15-Nov-12 21:46:30

This doesn't sound like a proper man - has he no self-respect? This is a bigger problem you've got here than just a chair. Sorry.

FreudiansSlipper Thu 15-Nov-12 21:46:55

do all women nag?

not all men are selfish and immature

I cringe women talk about their partners like they are silly little boys and think do stfu

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows Thu 15-Nov-12 21:47:11

Well, your husband appears to be a self centred arse. But not all men are, so YABU.

OpheliaPayneAgain Thu 15-Nov-12 21:47:40

if he gets a job

And you are with him because?

picnicbasketcase Thu 15-Nov-12 21:47:48

'SOME' men, maybe. Not men in general though.

ivykaty44 Thu 15-Nov-12 21:48:14

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AnyFucker Thu 15-Nov-12 21:49:00

Your husband sounds like a tool

Have a moan, and continue parenting your husband.

Until the day you get real and decide you have had enough of it. Mumsnet will be here for you then.

ihavenofuckingclue Thu 15-Nov-12 21:50:29

What the fuck?

I assume he hasn't got a job because he can't get one despite trying really hard, so why the fuck will one suddenly turn up because he wants a gaming chair.

If he hasn't got a job he should be doing everything he can to get one and help support his family. not to buy himself a pile of shit.

My dh is far from perfect, but really I can't believe there are some adults with this attitude.

Wonder how long it would take him to get a job if you agreed. If its really quickly (which I suspect he would) at least you know he is a cock lodger.

littlewhitebag Thu 15-Nov-12 21:50:50

So what is a gaming chair?????? I really need to know.

ihavenofuckingclue Thu 15-Nov-12 21:51:34

men never get past 12 years old, though they do wear long trousers

That attitude is as bad as the OPs dh.

DontmindifIdo Thu 15-Nov-12 21:51:56

Sorry, but a lot of men are grown ups, sensible people who support their families, not just take - DH has an expensive hobby (mountain biking) but, household costs come first.

To summerise, your DH doesn't work, he expects you to spent £300 on his hobby just before christmas as a "well done" for getting a job, not getting you a gift as a "thanks for holding the fort" with his first wage? Really? And he sulks and behaves like a child? What does he think your his mum who just buys him treats for being a good boy?

OpheliaPayneAgain Thu 15-Nov-12 21:53:27

Do either of you work?

LouisWalshsChristmasCloset Thu 15-Nov-12 21:53:46

From the title of your thread alone, YANBU

coribells Thu 15-Nov-12 21:58:46

Maybe he doesn't really expect a gaming chair , just wishes he could have one at some point. The same way I wish I could have an iPad for Christmas because I work hard and struggle. In reality it probably won't be this year, next year perhaps.

MORCAPS Thu 15-Nov-12 22:00:21

Don't assume that because your DH is an overgrown brat, all men are.

Mine isn't and my 8 year old behaves better than that.

pumpkinsweetie Thu 15-Nov-12 22:01:37

I'm a sahm and he has been recently made redundant.
I'm the one who has trawled the net applying for hundreds off jobs and obtaining application forms for him and the thanks i get is this moronic behaviour.

This isn't just about the gaming chair really, it does go deeper.
His selfishness is starting to completely take over everything, and at the moment i'm at a loss of what to dosad

He seems to think because im a sahm he deserves this chair as he is the one going to the interview even though i'm the one that applied for it as he couldn't be botheredsad

I'm also scared about being sanctioned our jsa because i have a feeling he will now flunk it, if he flunks it we don't get our jsa and our bills won't get paidsad

On top of all this the 6th anniversary of my 16yo brothers death is close and i'm feeling very sad about the impending date so i could do with his support right now rather than thissad

ihavenofuckingclue Thu 15-Nov-12 22:02:42

coribells so do you strop because you won't get one?

You stomp you feet and sulk for days? Really?

MrsTerryPratchett Thu 15-Nov-12 22:04:15

Gaming chairs Who knew?

YABU. You married an idiot. Doesn't mean they are all like that. My DH manages to like gaming, not have a gaming chair, not be a childish idiot, work and not treat Christmas like a selfish-fest. Not all men are twunts.

ihavenofuckingclue Thu 15-Nov-12 22:05:11

OP he is a twunt of the highest order.

MrsTerryPratchett Thu 15-Nov-12 22:05:18

I x-posted pumkkinsweetie. Sorry for your loss.

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