To get annoyed at people who think being mentally ill always steams down to that person being depressed?(38 Posts)
Because some people can't look further than their own nose and think that they know everything.
It's very frustrating especially when the person won't listen.
Poor you, it's hard,a family member was sectioned due to bi polar, it was awful.
Sorry about your mum, that's a really tough situation. I hope she gets the help she needs.
At the risk of revealing myself as yet another idiot- doesn't bipolar involve depressive episodes? Not that your mum would necessarily be depressed currently but that the condition does involve bouts of depression?
It's just ignorance isn't it - you really can't expect people with no experience of a situation to be experts on the correct terminology. I find it really odd that you're wasting time and emotion being pissed off at this to be honest. The people saying this stuff aren't being rude - they just don't know any better/different.
Yes I thought along the same lines asCailin - that bi- polar meant you had mania and depression (ie the complete opposite).
Sorry you are having a hard time with your mum, though.
I got pissed off when describing my elderly DM as having a mental illness (schizophrenia), and then being cut off by others saying it must be Alzheimer's.
Er...no, she is is mentally ill but not demented. There IS a difference. You can be both, but they are not the same.
Someone who won't believe you when you are trying to tell them is fair game for you to be annoyed at. The sort of person that won't listen and thinks they are always right is annoying no matter what you are trying to talk about, whether its mental health or how to trim a rose bush.
Mental health issues are very misunderstood, but I don't think it's fair to be annoyed at every one that doesn't know much about it. I think assuming there is an element of depression when you have been told someone has bipolar is a reasonable assumption to make. I don't know much about plenty of illnesses or medical conditions, or plenty of other things in life, no one knows about everything.
It's the not listening to you that's the problem here, not the lack of knowledge about mental health issues.
There really is a lot of ignorance about MH issues, it is because it seems to be a taboo subject and no one wants to talk about it.
Alt, may i ask a question, because i think i would fall into that category of people who don't really understand Bi-polar. I always thought that this was a condition where people are either manic or low and that the low periods of bi-polar disorder did include depression? Didn't it used to be called manic depression but changed to bi-polar because calling it manic despression gave the wrong impression?
I really hope your mum gets back on track soon.
I know what you mean though - i suffer from anxiety, it can be crippling but i woudlnt describe myself as depressed. It can make me feel depressed but it is anxiety that is my problem not depression.
Depressed is one of those words isnt it - some people get quite precious about it (me included sometimes). "oh i feel depressed" for when people are just generally down and pissed off, even being REALLY pissed off and upset does not mean you are depressed, you may just be reacting to crap that is happening to you at that time, i think if the crap goes on and on and then you can't stop being pissed off and dispondant then it is "ok" to say you are depressed, but i think it is easy to trvialise and i wonder if that is why it irks you so much when peole say that your mum is "simply depressed" when clearly her disorder i very different.
echt - that is a really interesting point and i think it highlights that actually the medical profession are really not at that greater point when treating MH disorders. I have anxiety, so i am often put onto ADs - drugs to treat both, but its different. My dad had dementia and was put onto anti-psychotic drugs, i think it is because the doctors have to do SOMETHING but just don't have the knowledge (because no-one really does yet) to do something more specific. Hopefully this will improve x
I think mental health is one of those areas where, maybe through fear, people tend to latch on to something they know and understand.
It is easier for people to get a hold on depression, than psychosis or paranoid schizophrenia or bipolar. Depression gets talked about in a much more 'normal' way.
I have found a similar thing with disability, when we were aware that ds had problems with his development and his muscles, people would say, 'oh is it cerebral palsy?' and now it has become apparent it is a genetic disorder, people say, 'oh he doesn't look like he has down's syndrome' - I suppose these are the most visible and well known disabilities, so people can only really understand something they have no experience of, through them.
Thanks for clarifying that alt, it makes sense. It must be very frustrating for you, but do try not to get upset about it (i know, easier said!) because people genuinely don't understand, it doesn't mean they don't care. Some people are just ignorant though and those people aren't worth bothering with.
Sorry to go on about it, and tell me to feck off by all means, but aren't the "low" periods known as "depressive episodes"? So she doesn't have depression but in her low periods she has the symptoms of depression?
Yes they are cailin that's why people with bi polar take meds usually, to keep on an even keel.
I think a lot of people do not realise that mental illness is every bit as varied as physical illness. People can related better to depression than being delusional. Sad to say, but there is more respect and understanding with someone who is depressed than someone suffering pychosis. A person with pychosis may well be extremely happy because they have no clue what is going on.
I'm sorry that your mother is ill and hope she is better soon.
I'm with you OP.
And trying to explain to students that actually some people enjoy being ill when they are in the 'up' phase of bipolar is virtually impossible.
Is it possible OP that they were saying she much be depressed as she is in hospital? As in " How horrible to be in hospital, it's so depressing." Just a thought.
Down to depression OP? Is it necessary to have some kind of league table of MH issues? All can be totally debilitating. All can be fatal too.
Bi-polar disorder is technically a form of depression. Thats why for a very long time it was called manic depression. The clue is in the name. The down periods are depression. That doesn't mean it is the same as uni polar depression.
And I'm sure, not being medical professionals, what they mean is that she must be very down and upset about being sectioned. Wouldn't anyone be? They are being sympathetic.
I'm still confused too. Why are you upset at the classification of depression when depression is what she has when she is going through a low period?
Also, as a sufferer of depression, why are you so against her being described as depressed - it strikes me you think there is some sort of shame attached to depression.
As I said before, my understanding of bipolar is that you have highs (mania) and lows (depression). So why ate you insisting your mother does not have depression when she is going through a low?
I agree there is lots of confusion and ignorance generally around MH issues, but I think you are confused too?
"And I'm sure, not being medical professionals, what they mean is that she must be very down and upset about being sectioned. Wouldn't anyone be? They are being sympathetic. "
Depends on how ill she is. If she is seriously ill then she may have no understanding of what going on. She could be experiencing a range of emotions depending on how she percieves her circumstances. She may well be scared, angry, frustrated, ashamed or delirously happy depending on what kind of delusions she has. The recovery period after she leaves hospital will be very hard as she will have to come to terms with what has happened to her.
I always thought bipolar was also described as manic depression hence why people probably use the term "depressed".
I wouldn't call myself ignorant for using that term in relation to bi-polar.
I hope that your mum can get onto an even keel soon.
I hope your mum is better/stable soon, it must be very scary & worrying.
Perhaps its because depression can be variable in severity that you feel your Mums condition is being downplayed.
The average person (fortunately for them) doesn't have much understanding of severe mental health issues.
For someone or family of someone who is hospitalised for psychotic symptoms, other people saying "I /my sister/my partner get depressed too" can be very annoying.
Perhaps people are just trying to normalise/sympathise, they probably don't realise how annoying it is for you.
I'm not really sure that's the case OP, although it must be very frustrating to hear things like that. We have MH problem trends on both sides of the family going far back and maybe because we're more familiar with it, it doesn't seem so clear cut/black and white to us. Education is the key- how could it be fitted into the school curriculum?
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