After many years in the city DP and I took the plunge this year and bought a house in the countryside. We had been wanting to do this for ages, partly because we love the countryside but mainly because it meant we could buy a family sized house, whereas if we stayed in London we could afford a 2 bed flat at best. We both work in London and have a 1.5 hour commute each way but decided it was worth it.
For the first few months after we moved things were great, however then DP's work cut down staff numbers and since then DP has been working all hours. He has always worked fairly long hours, finishing about 7pm or sometimes 8pm or 9pm on a bad day, however for the last few months he has literally been working 8am - 9pm on a good day and on a bad day he can be working until the early hours. Sometimes he sleeps at the office as he reckons its not worth coming home. The are no signs that the situation will improve. He works in finance.
The issue is when we moved to the middle of nowhere we did it on the basis we would be doing it as a couple. However now I have a 1.5 hour commute home, just to sit in a big dark house in the middle of nowhere all alone. I don't know anyone in the area and it's hard to make friends as I work full time myself. I also don't really like being home alone in our big rural house at night, but I know I need to stop being such a wimp!
I just don't know what to do. New jobs in DPs field are hard to come by, and I am so fed up of being alone. If I knew things would pan out this way I would have stayed in London where I had lots of friends nearby and knew the neighbours etc.
DP knows how I feel and doesn't like seeing me sad and he isn't happy with having to work such long hours himself.
Anyone else been in a similar situation?
We don't have kids yet.
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to be starting to regret leaving city for countryside / feeling lonely?
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Kissingk1979 · 14/11/2012 19:34
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