We are skint, DP is self employed and work is erratic. So when an evening/morning (up to me) cleaning job fell in my lap i was really chuffed.
I have been donig it in the evenings, but have often had to take DD with me or leave her with my DM (who cant really cope too long so i get stressed) as DP often not in from work til late - ok, can't be helped. On a Wednesday night DP goes out, only for an hour, but it has to be at 8pm, this has meant i have had to ensure i finish the job by 7.45, this is difficult as for some reason the guys at work are never out of there on time on a wed, so i end up having to try and clean round them (can't possibly start before 6.30 anyway, but they usually there until 7, or later) and try and get finished in time, the job usually takes 1.5 hours but its not too dirty and i clean like a thing posessed i can manage to knock 15 mins off. I find this really stressful, also have just got a second part-time job during the day (only three days a week and one evening) so wanted to start cleaning in the mornings. This solves everyones problems doesn't it?
Err, apparently not, because it will make DP late out in the morning (he never leaves before 8 ever) and tomorrow he has to be somewhere so has to leave at 7.45 am. I didn't know this and made a comment to DP, as i am shattered after starting work at 5.45 am today that i might leave it a bit later as so long as im out of there by 8 the floors will have time to dry etc. He got really stroppy and said, "i can't keep making allowances for you, i have stuff to do you know" or something like that.
Was i unreasonable to see red??? For one thing, ive done this job for just over a month now and have not spent so much as 50p for a chocolate bar on myself, not a penny - all gone on DDs activities, a halloween party for DD, and the rest for food etc. Its not that much money, my point is, im not doing the job for "pocket money" Im not doing it as a fucking hobby either, despite quite liking it, im knackered and was trying to make things a bit easier for myself, also its awkward in the evening as i dont want to pressure DP into getting home too early. But COME THE FUCK ON - i only changed the time because A, wednesday is a nightmare due to DPs "thing" and also it means that i dont have to frig around with meal times etc (i have missed meals because ive often only had tiem to prepare DDs and DPs meals before i leave, im never hungry after doing the headless chicken thing so i dont bother).
So how the fuck am i sat here feeling guilty for expecting DP to take some responsibility for childcare I know i don't earn much but fuck me!
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Whatnowffs · 14/11/2012 16:26
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