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to think that this woman was a cow

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PrettyHairClips · 13/11/2012 18:12

I was sitting in the Morrisons cafe today with my two toddlers (living the high-life over a kids fish fingers and mash). A few tables away there was a screaming preschooler in the full throws of a tantrum and her very worn-out, bewildered looking mother. This poor mum tried every trick in the book to get her child to calm down: distraction, ignoring, firmly telling off.

This went on for 10 minutes or so.

Then a woman at a nearby table, got up, put her coat on, then said loudly to me as she walked out, "I can't take any more of this screaming" (she was beaming a smug smirk as she said it, then rolled here eyes and walked off).

wtf is up with people?

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CheerMum · 13/11/2012 18:14

Possibly she didn't enjoy her post-food shop cuppa accompanied by ten minutes of screaming?

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MrsTerryPratchett · 13/11/2012 18:16

No one is being unreasonable or everyone is. 10 minutes of a screaming child is awful. Having a screaming child is awful. I have every sympathy with the Mum but also with the person who left.

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frootshoots · 13/11/2012 18:17

To be fair, I'd have probably guzzled my coffee and scoffed my cake to quickly get away if they were showing no signs of leaving. But I'd have left the smart arse comment out. Supermarket cafes are not where you go if you want a zen like dining experience.

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PrettyHairClips · 13/11/2012 18:17

Did the person who left have to say that so loudly? What good did it do?

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NotMostPeople · 13/11/2012 18:17

She was being a cow however I do sympathise especially now my dc's are older I'm less tolerant of screaming children. I wouldn't have said anything but I would have left.

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Fisharefriendsnotfood · 13/11/2012 18:18

If my kid was screaming I would leave, and it wouldn't take me 10 mins either

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TimothyTumblespring · 13/11/2012 18:18

I don't think she was BU to be pissed off by it. However, I think it was U to make it known she was pissed off.

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RyleDup · 13/11/2012 18:19

I wo

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ENormaSnob · 13/11/2012 18:19

I wouldn't have sat for ten minutes if my pre schooler was having a screaming fit.

Totally unfair to other diners IMO.

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ticktockcroc · 13/11/2012 18:20

Eek, she didn't need to say that, no.

I'd have left long before ten mins if was the pre schooler mum though.

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diddl · 13/11/2012 18:20

Did the mother hear?

Maybe it should have occurred to her to leave sooner?

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RyleDup · 13/11/2012 18:20

I would have left too. It gets in your head. Its bad enough having to listen to your own kids, let alone someone elses. I wouldn't have made a comment though.

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ObiWan · 13/11/2012 18:21

Ten minutes is a long time to allow your child to scream in a cafe, to be fair.

Perhaps she meant it as a hint to the mother for next time.

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domesticgodless · 13/11/2012 18:22

Must be a nightmare if you have say an SN kid with sensory issues or just one of those constantly screaming toddlers.

You are basically expected to leave every public space as soon as they set off. So you end up confined to your house. Dreadful.

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ticktockcroc · 13/11/2012 18:22

To be fair, the one and only time I've been in a Morrisons cafe left me feeling like screw ing for ten minutes too. It was like a mid 80s wimpy or someshing. Very surreal.

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JamieandtheMagicTorch · 13/11/2012 18:23

I also have the utmost sympathy with everyone here.

Smartarse comments are not helpful

But I would not (and did not) subject everyone else to 10 minutes of my tantrummy DSs in ful throttle

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PrettyHairClips · 13/11/2012 18:23

I believe the mother (of the screaming kid) was waiting for their food to arrive.

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WizardofOs · 13/11/2012 18:23

I wouldn't have said anything but the screaming would have got right on my tits. I may well have left. I might have even let myself indulge in a little eye roll.

My youngest has just started school and so I have done my toddler time, paid my dues etc. I am allowed to be smug that they and me all survived the tantrum stage.

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domesticgodless · 13/11/2012 18:24

I remember a few awful days like that with my ds1 who was a crying baby and awful toddler. I would always remove him but I remember crying at home myself quite a few days and nights because I just couldn't go anywhere or sit down in public for 2 mins. Because of him I had no life, and it sent me into depression tbh. Dealing with constant crying and tantrums is awful and no one gives a shit or helps you out. So my sympathies are more with the mother than the few people who had to drink their coffee quickly and leave.

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mrskeithrichards · 13/11/2012 18:24

Do kids still eat for free in Morrisons?

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JamieandtheMagicTorch · 13/11/2012 18:25

Actually, thinking about it, I'm more tolerant of it in other children than I was in my own child. I probably wouldn't leave a cafe if someone else's child was screaming.

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ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 13/11/2012 18:25

Who honestly enjoys listening to screaming? No one.

I would have moved too I'm afraid, though without the comment.

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mmmnoodlesoup · 13/11/2012 18:26

She should have taken her son home if he was so distressed. Maybe he didn't feel well, hence why nothing was working.

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PrettyHairClips · 13/11/2012 18:26

ticktock - Wimpy - loving it. A very accurate description.

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JamieandtheMagicTorch · 13/11/2012 18:26

domestic

I know what you mean. I look back and think "why did I do all those things?". But then if I hadn't I'd have been stuck at home.

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