to be furious with the school?

[Mimstar]

DD was absolutely fine when she went in this morning, ate her breakfast okay etc. When I went to pick her up, her teacher said 'Did you get my voicemail? She's been a bit sick.'

Panicked, I check my phone having had it with me all day. No missed calls. I check the contact sheet in the classroom and they had called my old number, despite having been given my new number twice. When I looked at the contact sheet, I noticed that DH and my mum's numbers weren't on it. I asked why that was, as I'd filled in a contact sheet with those on.

'Oh, they are on the sheet in the main office.'

'Why didn't you go to the office, then?'

'Well she seemed to perk up a bit after she had been sick.'

I clap eyes on DD, and she is absolutely NOT fine. She was white as a sheet, with a temperature.

'Oh, well she has been a bit quiet for the last part of the afternoon.'

DD had been sick on her jumper, and was just in her t-shirt. It is bloody freezing in that school, and she had been throwing up. They didn't even give her a spare bloody jumper. I then say that she won't be in tomorrow, given she has been sick, and there is a 48 hour policy.

'I'm sure she'll be fine to come in tomorrow.' This is what the teacher said. It is their policy. I then went to the office, carrying DD who was exhausted and hot, and I checked the main contact sheet. There, sure enough, is my correct phone number, plus DH's number and my mum's.

They didn't even fucking bother. They left my girl cold and ill, and do you know why? Because they are insane when it comes to attendance, because they were slammed by ofsted about attendance amongst other things. I have drawn this opinion, because this is not the first time I've heard of this. This is not the first child who has been allowed in/not sent home when they have been obviously poorly and I am fed up of it.

Also, she is in nursery - not even reception. The foundation stage.

DD has been poorly all evening, and will not be going in tomorrow. It broke my heart when we got home and she said 'You said if I be poorly you will come and pick me up Mummy, I did think you would pick me up.'

Official complaint, I think.

[Cluffyfunt]

That is beyond bad

I would have their arses on a bloody plate!

[MrsTomHardy]

Dreadful

Hope your DD feels better soon

[Svrider]

Yes definetly complain
Copy in lea

[Mimstar]

I am really upset, I felt so awful for DD. She was okay once she got home, although she was sick again at least she is being looked after. I am furious.

[Svrider]

Oops yanbu

[JoshLyman]

YANBU. Bloody negligent arses.

[aimingtobeaperfectionist]

Poor poor baby.
I can't believe they left her like that.
Complain. I'm disgusted.
Hope she's ok.

[lovebunny]

i hope your dd is soon better. i am sorry she was so badly cared for by the school, and she is so young, too.

[aimingtobeaperfectionist]

Sorry!
YANBU.

[madhairday]

Oh that's awful. Your poor dd. Yes do complain, so so wrong of the school :(

[littlestressy]

Terrible. You need to complain, your poor daughter

[thebody]

Your poor dd, hope she's ok soon.

I work in a school and this is unacceptable.

We had a sick child today and she also had a temp. It's quite sensible to take off a jumper to cool child down as temps can cause febrile convulsions( fits) in littlies but she was cuddled down in the book corner on cushions with sips of water until mum came.

The contact sheet is in the office and used in usual way. That's not rocket science.

Vomiting ALWAYS necessitates 24 hours off although some kids vomit with colds, still if that heavy a cold and temp then school is not place for them.

I would definatly complain if I were you.

Any sick child should be treated with sensible cheerful compassion.

They sound very incompetent and a tad uncaring.

[TheSkiingGardener]

Definitely official complaint. Your poor DD!

[LynetteScavo]

When I was reading the OP, I was imagining she was in KS2.....but nursery?!

Totally unacceptable!

[thebody]

Not sure re attendance issue. Children arnt required to attend school by law until 5th birthday in this country so Ofsted wouldn't expect this in a nursery class!

[Dinosaurhunter]

That is terrible poor little thing , my son had a cold recently but had no temp so sent him to school and asked his teacher to please ring me if he became Ill , came to home time and he came out the classroom crying high temp. , white really I'll ( so not like him ) I was fuming I felt so guilt y knowing I was home all day and he was at school poorly .

[Fakebook]

Poor girl. Definitely complain. Hope she gets better soon.

[mymatemax]

Ahh poor little thing, I'm usually so supportive of schools & try to see it from their POV but honestly sounds like the teacher is in the wrong job.
Yes complain & hope its very ccontagious & the teaccher has spent the evening throwing up.

[PandaNot]

thebody OFSTED look at the attendance of all pupils on roll, even if they aren't statutory school age.

Complain away, I don't usually say that in threads about schools but in this case YANBU.

[Mimstar]

Thank you everybody, it's good to know I'm not being over the top.

The thing is, her teacher is lovely. But the headteacher is fierce about attendance, it's common knowledge amongst parents and when we had to sign their attendance policy when DD was admitted to the school, I questioned it and her teacher told me they have a lot of pressure on them from the head about attendance.

Their attitude to the policy baffles me, they are reluctant to send children home and happily accept children in who have been sick. I know it's common for young children to catch a lot of stuff, but if they were more strict then perhaps it wouldn't be so common.

DD is doing okay now, thank you. She is a cheerful little thing and luckily took it all in her stride, it did make me a little sad when she asked why I hadn't collected her though.

[DioneTheDiabolist]

YANBU. Something similar happened to my DS(5) last year. I was absolutely livid.

It happened on the last day of the first term so it was a week before I could complain. It's just as well as that's how long it took for me to calm down sufficiently to verbalise my complaint and be clear about what I expected in the future.

[RibenaFiend]

Your poor baby. I hope she's feeling better.

DEFINITELY complain. In writing. Head and governors. I would class the teacher's behaviour as atrocious.

[Mimstar]

That's the problem tiggytape it is only a small class anyway, 16 of them. They all seem to be just constantly ill. I know it's going to happen, but surely their attitude towards sickness can't help.