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pumpking Mon 12-Nov-12 14:30:27

I am going to a concert this weekend. Out of the kindness of my heart, I invited new work colleague (A), who is new to the area, along. I am travelling there and back alone but will meet friends there and watch the concert together.

Work colleague wants to bring brand-new squeeze along. No probs, more the merrier. So, he'll be paying for her, her transport and drinks etc as she is a student.

We live very close to each other. Transport there and back will probably be around £15 pp (bus and tube there plus we will share taxi back). The cost of the concert ticket is £25.

Another colleague (B) can't afford to come, but would drive us for free if we paid for his ticket. He also lives close by, so could pick us up and drop us from our doors.

I proposed this to work colleague A, who refused to split it on the grounds that he's already paying for another person. He proposed that I pay the whole cost of the ticket, because he's already paying for somebody else and it wouldn't be 'fair'.

If I pay the whole £25 cost of the ticket, I'm then subsidising work colleage A + his squeeze's entire transport cost. And paying £10 more than I would using public.

If we split the ticket, I save £2.50- not really enough to be massively bothered with. However, he saves £17.50. I've pointed this out to him, but he still insists that it wouldn't be 'fair' to split the ticket and that I should pay.

AIBU to think:

1. That my new colleague is unable to do simple mathematics
2. That I am not paying the full cost of colleague B's ticket
3. That it is perfectly fair to split the ticket cost
4. That I am never inviting anyone along to anything out of pity ever again

I'm not being stingy, am I? Being made to feel like I am at the moment.

DontmindifIdo Mon 12-Nov-12 14:34:09

Make your own way there and back. Let your colleagues sort themselves out.

In future, avoid colleague A and money.

Tweasels Mon 12-Nov-12 14:37:26

Tell work colleague B you can't afford to pay for his ticket.
Tell work colleague A you'll meet him and his girlfriend at the gig.
You get the bus

pumpking Mon 12-Nov-12 14:39:24

ah no, he'll have to come with me as he's massively clingy and simply wouldn't go if he had to make his own way there, without someone to either a) drive him or b) guide him through public transport.

pumpking Mon 12-Nov-12 14:40:55

wish I hadn't invited him now, but he'd just do sad puppydog eyes that I was leaving him all alone on a Saturday evening

DontmindifIdo Mon 12-Nov-12 14:42:19

who is clinging? A or B?

Either way, not your problem, you'll meet whoever wants to go there. Done.

oldraver Mon 12-Nov-12 14:42:21

How much would your share of the taxi back be ? would it still be cheaper for you to buy the ticket I would do that and tell colleauge A you will meet him (and his squueze) there

flowery Mon 12-Nov-12 14:43:39

If you are the only one to pay the whole cost of Bs ticket in return for transport there, then you are the only one to benefit from said transport, surely? confused

If A and partner also want to benefit from lift from B they need to share the cost of that transport. 3 people getting a lift. 1/3 each.

oldraver Mon 12-Nov-12 14:44:44

Oh just seen your other post about him being clingy...he's an adult FFS perfectly capable of making his own way there, and he wont be alone if he has a squeeze,

flowery Mon 12-Nov-12 14:45:28

Which work colleague is puppy dog eyes and clingy pathetic

Tweasels Mon 12-Nov-12 14:45:48

So work colleague A can't use public transport alone/with girlfriend without you to hold his hand and Work colleague B doesn't want to be left in alone on a Saturday night? Are your colleagues under 12?

Well you either Piss B off and leave him home alone or insist A comes up with half the money. Think they're all behaving like dicks actually and taking you for a ride.

MummytoKatie Mon 12-Nov-12 14:46:08

1. Yes.
2. Yes.
3. Actually no. You should only be paying a third as B is giving a lift to 3 people and you are only on of them.
4. Sounds sensible!

maybenow Mon 12-Nov-12 14:47:04

but he's not all alone is he - he's got his new girlfriend?????

grumpyinthemornings Mon 12-Nov-12 14:49:18

If B is driving all three of you, all three of you should contribute to his ticket. The fact that A is paying for someone else as well is his own problem, he wanted to invite his new 'squeeze' - love that term btw smile - and has no impact on anything you and he would split.

He's a grown man, surely he could survive travelling to a concert by himself. Besides, isn't he taking his squeeze? So he won't actually be alone.

Tell him to man up, pay up, and shut up.

Whocansay Mon 12-Nov-12 14:51:58

Go on your own.

A can go with his gf and not be lonely (the big jessie)

B can pay for his own ticket or stay at home.

Why on earth would you want to play gooseberry to A and his gf anyway?

And yes, A is a moron. And tight. And ungrateful.

Hope you go and have a good time without them. You know if you proceed with this that it will get even more complicated at some point, don't you? You don't need the stress.

shesariver Mon 12-Nov-12 14:53:30

ah no, he'll have to come with me as he's massively clingy and simply wouldn't go if he had to make his own way there

No he doesnt have to come with you, if this is the case then he simply doesnt go - why should this be your problem? confused

Viviennemary Mon 12-Nov-12 14:53:43

I think I'd just do as someone else says and make your own way there and back. And say it is to avoid arguments. I don't think you should be obliged to pay for somebody else's concert ticket because they give you a lift there and back. Or try and get somebody to pay for somebody else. On the other hand if the three of you have to pay £15 each for transport then this would cover the other person's ticket. What pains some people are!

ZenNudist Mon 12-Nov-12 14:56:34

I think fairest would be to split b's ticket 3 ways and that way you, a and A's gf save a fiver on transport costs. If A wont go for it you've only lost out £2.50 on you kind suggestion of split cost 2 ways.


VivaLeBeaver Mon 12-Nov-12 14:59:13

Tell A you'll all have to take public transport then as you can't afford to pay for B.

When she/he realises that it will cost them £30 for 2 lots of transport rather than half of a £25 ticket maybe he/she will rethink.

Don't ask A out again.

pengymum Mon 12-Nov-12 15:02:46

If A doesn't want to split 3 ways then let him make his own way with his 'squeeze' - they have each other for company. Not your problem.

I would suggest to B that he buys own ticket but you will split petrol cost & go with him in the car. If that is not acceptable, say ok thanks but no thanks.

And travel on your own. I'd leave extra early to make sure I didn't bump into A and 'squeeze' by accident!

And avoid any splitting bill instances with A in future. Thank your lucky stars that you have seen what he is like early on - this is the kind of person that orders a la carte and wine and then insists everyone split the cost of his splurging!!!

Durab Mon 12-Nov-12 15:04:12

If you want to accept B's offer, then do and pay for his ticket. Tell the other's you'll meet them there .

FreePeaceSweet Mon 12-Nov-12 15:05:51

How complicated?! confused I read it twice and still can't figure it out. Just go alone.

pengymum Mon 12-Nov-12 15:06:51

Actually thinking about it - like whocansay says - it is only going to get more complicated further along! They are going to want dinner or drinks before/after...

Ditch the lot of them and don't make the same mistake again!

MotherfuckingMorrisMan Mon 12-Nov-12 15:10:36

Oh tell all the inadequates to piss off.

What kind of adult who presumably holds down a job is afraid of public transport? Pathetic.

Stop treating your colleagues like you're their mum by 'looking after' them like this and presumably they will be less likely to act like children.

gettingeasier Mon 12-Nov-12 15:12:44

Yep ditch them and go alone , cheeky buggers !

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