To not want MIL to take DS to the other side of the world for 6 weeks

[MSDP]

My DP thinks I am being unreasonable to not want his mother to take my son away to their home country for six weeks when he is two years old.

My son has a good relationship with his GM and she is capable of looking after him, however I am not comfortable with her taking my son for so long to a place more than 12 hours away. This place has is in South America and is not renowned for being the safest place in the world and my son has never been away from me for me than 2 nights so am I being unreasonable?

[mrskeithrichards]

No.

[Whoknowswhocares]

Your child your rules. Deffo not being unreasonable

[N0tinmylife]

No, of course YANBU. Is there no way you could go with them?

[SingingTunelessly]

YANBU at all. That's a long time to be so far away when he's so little.

[YourHandInMyHand]

YANBU do not allow this.

Does he have a passport already? How old is he?

[omletta]

YANBU.

No is a complete sentence.

[lynniep]

Absolutely YANBU.

[featherbag]

6 WEEKS? And he's only 2? No fucking way are YBU!

[Slainte]

YANBU, there's no way I would allow my DC to be away from me for one week let alone six. I think your DS will be distressed at your absence too.

[Iggly]

YANBU

Are your DH and your MIL INSANE? Would your MIL have let her baby out of the country with someone else for 6 weeks?!

Mad.

[Coffeeformeplease]

No, you are not being unreasonable. I would never ever have anyone take one of my children on holiday for 6 weeks (SIX WEEKS??) never mind where. Not at 2 not at 11, maybe at 14.
Talk to your partner, I think it is out of order to ask you to let your son go with her for so long.

[comedycentral]

YANBU! I would not allow this. It would be a week tops for me...he's a baby still imo.

[valiumredhead]

Fuck that, no way! Six Weeks!?

[BlueberryHill]

No way, not that long and without his parents.

Why is your DH oushing this? He is way too young for this. My DS is 5 and the max he has been away from his parents is 2 nights and within an hours drive.

[nannyl]

YADNBU

[NapDamnYou]

No way. He's far too little to understand and get much out of it and young enough to be needing his mum. Not just wanting. Needing. It's unfair to even ask.

[chinam]

YANBU. Your DH on the other hand...

[spidermanspiderman]

YANBU no way would I ever let that happen particularly at such a young age. Your ds still needs you.

[MSDP]

He has a British passport and is 18 months. To go for longer than a month he would need to have a passport from that country which would make him a national of that country. It is am extremely patriarchal country and travelling with that passport I would not even be allowed to take him out without written permission from his father. Although I in no way believe that my son would not return i just do not feel comfortable. He is 18 months but would be going when he is around 2. I would not be able to go as I am unable to take so much time off from work and I will still have to pay nursery fees when he is gone.

[OnlyWantsOne]

No way.

[MarshaBrady]

No of course not.

[ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged]

YADNBU!!!!!!!

(But can we have more info please as it sounds like a good one!)

[NomNomingiaDePlum]

no. at two he's not even going to notice enough about their home country beyond its complete unfamiliarity for it to be a worthwhile experience for him, and i imagine he'll be completely freaked out by your absence when he's in such a strange place. no, no, no.

[ImperialStateKnickers]

Yanbu, for all the reasons listed above.

[MrsMmoo]

YANBU, I think your 2 year old will be traumatised by being taken away from his mother at this age. How old is your child now? If this is your first baby you have no idea how clingy some 2 year olds can be.

I can't believe anyone would even suggest this, it is insane!