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To not want MIL to take DS to the other side of the world for 6 weeks

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MSDP Sun 11-Nov-12 20:31:07

My DP thinks I am being unreasonable to not want his mother to take my son away to their home country for six weeks when he is two years old.

My son has a good relationship with his GM and she is capable of looking after him, however I am not comfortable with her taking my son for so long to a place more than 12 hours away. This place has is in South America and is not renowned for being the safest place in the world and my son has never been away from me for me than 2 nights so am I being unreasonable?

mrskeithrichards Sun 11-Nov-12 20:32:00


Whoknowswhocares Sun 11-Nov-12 20:32:12

Your child your rules. Deffo not being unreasonable

N0tinmylife Sun 11-Nov-12 20:32:26

No, of course YANBU. Is there no way you could go with them?

SingingTunelessly Sun 11-Nov-12 20:32:32

YANBU at all. That's a long time to be so far away when he's so little.

YourHandInMyHand Sun 11-Nov-12 20:32:36

YANBU do not allow this.

Does he have a passport already? How old is he?

omletta Sun 11-Nov-12 20:32:59


No is a complete sentence.

lynniep Sun 11-Nov-12 20:33:02

Absolutely YANBU.

featherbag Sun 11-Nov-12 20:33:12

6 WEEKS? And he's only 2? No fucking way are YBU!

Slainte Sun 11-Nov-12 20:33:36

YANBU, there's no way I would allow my DC to be away from me for one week let alone six. I think your DS will be distressed at your absence too.

Iggly Sun 11-Nov-12 20:34:26


Are your DH and your MIL INSANE? Would your MIL have let her baby out of the country with someone else for 6 weeks?!


Coffeeformeplease Sun 11-Nov-12 20:35:20

No, you are not being unreasonable. I would never ever have anyone take one of my children on holiday for 6 weeks (SIX WEEKS??) never mind where. Not at 2 not at 11, maybe at 14.
Talk to your partner, I think it is out of order to ask you to let your son go with her for so long.

comedycentral Sun 11-Nov-12 20:35:28

YANBU! I would not allow this. It would be a week tops for me...he's a baby still imo.

valiumredhead Sun 11-Nov-12 20:35:28

Fuck that, no way! Six Weeks!?

BlueberryHill Sun 11-Nov-12 20:35:34

No way, not that long and without his parents.

Why is your DH oushing this? He is way too young for this. My DS is 5 and the max he has been away from his parents is 2 nights and within an hours drive.

nannyl Sun 11-Nov-12 20:35:49


NapDamnYou Sun 11-Nov-12 20:36:19

No way. He's far too little to understand and get much out of it and young enough to be needing his mum. Not just wanting. Needing. It's unfair to even ask.

chinam Sun 11-Nov-12 20:36:42

YANBU. Your DH on the other hand...

spidermanspiderman Sun 11-Nov-12 20:36:54

YANBU no way would I ever let that happen particularly at such a young age. Your ds still needs you.

MSDP Sun 11-Nov-12 20:37:13

He has a British passport and is 18 months. To go for longer than a month he would need to have a passport from that country which would make him a national of that country. It is am extremely patriarchal country and travelling with that passport I would not even be allowed to take him out without written permission from his father. Although I in no way believe that my son would not return i just do not feel comfortable. He is 18 months but would be going when he is around 2. I would not be able to go as I am unable to take so much time off from work and I will still have to pay nursery fees when he is gone.

OnlyWantsOne Sun 11-Nov-12 20:37:29

No way.

MarshaBrady Sun 11-Nov-12 20:37:29

No of course not.


(But can we have more info please as it sounds like a good one!)

NomNomingiaDePlum Sun 11-Nov-12 20:38:22

no. at two he's not even going to notice enough about their home country beyond its complete unfamiliarity for it to be a worthwhile experience for him, and i imagine he'll be completely freaked out by your absence when he's in such a strange place. no, no, no.

ImperialStateKnickers Sun 11-Nov-12 20:38:30

Yanbu, for all the reasons listed above.

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