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to feel very hurt at not being told of cousin's pregnancy?

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dampfireworksinthegarden Sat 10-Nov-12 22:24:33

I have just learned via fb that my cousin & his DW are expecting their DC2. Dw is 26 weeks gone.
I'm really happy for them; the pregnancy has been much wanted.
the thing is, I am really hurt that i wasn't told of the pregnancy! I have lost my mum & uncle in the last year, and have previously told cousin's DW that i am feeling very lost in terms of family at the moment. They, together with their parents and brother are my nearest kin now.
i know that I value their role in my life far more than they value mine - they have the DW's family too, and, as far as i know, have not experienced bereavement of family members (apart from my mum & uncle, as mentioned). I understand that I am not a priority as such, but i still feel very hurt at finding out the great news through FB!
Mners, am I being picky and entitled, or do you think I am justified in feeling hurt? and what, if anything, do I do, if so?

squeakytoy Sat 10-Nov-12 22:27:43

I think you are over-reacting a bit, I can understand it, but to be fair, she has all her side of the family too, so a facebook announcement was probably the easiest way to let everyone know at once.

dampfireworksinthegarden Sat 10-Nov-12 22:30:08

thanks, squeakytoy. i probably AM over-reacting. but it wasnt' a FB announcement - i would have been fine with that. it was a random post about the pregnancy, and by the responses i guess that most people already knew.

ThatBintAgain Sat 10-Nov-12 22:30:29

I think it sounds a bit rough and I'm sorry you're in this situation of feeling so isolated. thanks

ThatBintAgain Sat 10-Nov-12 22:32:22

26wks gone seems a lot for people you now class as your closest relatives. I'm not surprised you feel hurt.

RyleDup Sat 10-Nov-12 22:32:42

I can see why you feel like that op, and they should have included you and told you before the fb announcement. I made sure all family knew including cousins before putting it on fb. I guess they just weren't thinking. I would probably say you felt a bit hurt, in a nice sort of way, and congratulate them on their news.
I'm sorry about your mum btw.

dampfireworksinthegarden Sat 10-Nov-12 22:33:55

thanks for the flowers, Bint! smile

ThatBintAgain Wed 14-Nov-12 16:19:58


Hope you're feeling better.

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