This be long as I am trying to see this from this all perspectives.
Dd aged 6 in year 2, made a remark about another child who is black. She was passing him a black button and said that he didn't need a button as his face was black.
Another child who is slightly older than dd, not sure the relevance, but this girl is far more grown up than my dd said " that's well racist, I'm making sure the teacher knows what you said" and then proceeded to march dd to the head with out her class teacher realising until they had left the class room.
The head shouts at dd, "that is rude, how dare you be so rude, now get back to your class room and get on with your work" and leaves the other child to escort dd back to class, whilst passing the class teacher who is looking for the girls.
This is according to dd, but I have no reason to feel this is inaccurate.
Dd is hysterical when leaving class and so teacher says we need to have a word, I take dd into the hall and she is inconsolable and won't tell me what is wrong, because she says "I did something terrible, I don't know what it is but you will be so angry with me" .
Teacher then sorts out children who aren't collected in time to the office and we go to class, dd asks to wait outside and teacher says no you must come in, dd is absolutely hysterical so I tell her to go and wash her face and ta from other class offers to look after her. The ta takes my hand and says you must tell her off as she didn't realise what she said. At that point I said of course I won't tell her off, it's obviously been dealt with. She takes dd into toilets and then her class room.
Dds class teacher tells me dd said something that was racist, I ask want it was and she said, I'm not to sure it was something about anther child, x, he is our little black boy not needing a button passed to him as he could put his face in the picture as he is black.
Ok I said, fair enough that seems that it could be unkind to the little boy and hurt his feelings, though I'm not sure this was dds intent to be racist. Can I ask how it was dealt with as dd is visibly upset, she assures me, she doesn't know but that the head obviously had to get involved because it was termed as racist. Bit she is sure it would have been delt with appropriately.
I explained I didn't feel she was coming across to well and it may be useful for me to talk to the head to gain some clarity and context as to how this was dot with as I would expect it should have been delalt with sensativly and as dd was so upset and she was unsure herself, I think I would get more information from the head.
So talk to head who explains that as it was comment regarding another child's race that could be hurtful it must be addressed. I did not disagree and expressed that dd has no concept of racism I would hope it was first most addressed in a manner that she realised it was unkind over and above anything else. The head agreed this happened but that she had to explain to dd how and why it race was an important issue here, I agreed I would do the same had I heard a similar comment, but I just did t want a seed to planted that otherwise may not occur to dd.
Anyway this is a very different explanation than dd gave me regarding, the head just shouting at her.
I explained to dd about racism and she said that's the word the other child used but the had not explained that to her, she just shouted at her for being rude and sent her back to class.
Now my concerns are the language used by the class teacher.
The fact that the head has seemingly not dealt with this in the sensitive manner as she had told me she had and dd not realising what she had done wrong.
Another child being able to march my dd to the head from a classroom and the class teacher not knowing this was happening.
Am I just seeing fault as this was handled sensitively as I would have in a way that would let my dd understand why this was not a nice thing to say.
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