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sosotiredagain123 Fri 09-Nov-12 20:29:18

DD is in a class 19 of which are girls one child has invited 9 girls to her party and left out the rest includung my daughter. DD is upset as this girl is part of a group of 8 that she plays with and the rest of the group have been invited ahould i say anything thehy are in year 5

ChaosTrulyReigns Fri 09-Nov-12 20:31:50


Do NOT say anything.

Just expalina to your DD that she can't go to every party.

frootshoots Fri 09-Nov-12 20:32:39

No. Upsetting, but this is life. This girl doesn't have to invite everyone to her party. Do something special with DD instead that day if you can. Last thing she needs is her mum kicking up a stink because she wasn invited.

sparklythings Fri 09-Nov-12 20:33:03

What Chaos said.

sosotiredagain123 Fri 09-Nov-12 20:33:35

just very surprised and rather upset

DragonMamma Fri 09-Nov-12 20:35:45

Do not say anything. Social suicide.

I could only invite 7 class people to DD's party this month thanks to having a shedload of family kids to invite and I know there's 2 girls who may feel a bit upset but I physically couldn't invite any more.

Such is life.

SugarMouse1 Fri 09-Nov-12 20:37:57

Make sure this girl is left out next time your daughter does something fun/has a party.

Such as is life.

Megan74 Fri 09-Nov-12 20:38:41

Don't do anything. Funnily enough the same happened to my DD today. She found out all the girls in her class have been invited to a party tomorrow. She said she was upset but OK about it. I have just shrugged it off and said it's not a big deal even though I am rather upset for DD about it as the same happened with the same person last year so hard to see it as an oversight. Sigh.

Floggingmolly Fri 09-Nov-12 20:39:14

She's invited less than half the girls, so it's a slight exaggeration to say the others have been "left out". She hasn't invited ten girls, which is her perogative.
Not everybody continues all class parties through to Year 5.

Sirzy Fri 09-Nov-12 20:39:54

If the party was one that only 10 children could attend then decisions have to me made and numbers limited somewhere. Unfortunatly this means someone will be left out

kenanddreary Fri 09-Nov-12 20:42:04

This sort of thing happens unfortunately. She isn't the only one not going - that would be much worse. So if 10 girls aren't going there really isn't anything to get upset about.

Goldmandra Fri 09-Nov-12 20:43:02

Be grateful that your DD has a group of friends that she feels part of. Not all do.

There may be very valid reasons why certain girls were chosen and not your DD. You just don't know them.

This is a learning opportunity for your DD. She is going to come across this situation in different guises on many occasions. Help her learn to manage her emotions about not being invited and accept the situation gracefully. She needs to learn to get over things like this and move on. You can help her to do this by talking through how she is feeling and why people sometimes do things we don't understand.

This would do her a lot more of a favour than asking why she hadn't been invited. Also remember that sometimes we don't like the answer we get from questions like that.

NatashaBee Fri 09-Nov-12 20:43:56

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sosotiredagain123 Fri 09-Nov-12 20:49:16

Many thanks for replies will talk to DD

PuffPants Fri 09-Nov-12 20:52:03

Maybe she's not as close to the birthday girl as you/she thinks she is?

If they really are a tight gang then there's obviously been a falling out. You can't really trust your DD's account of what goes on in the playground.

The main thing is, the majority of the class have not been invited. Tell her that.

sosotiredagain123 Fri 09-Nov-12 20:57:26


wigglesrock Fri 09-Nov-12 21:00:26

Who would you say something to? No, just leave it as others have said, more people haven't been invited than have. I also wouldn't let her know that you're upset - she'll think its a bigger deal than it is.

Rockchick1984 Fri 09-Nov-12 22:17:28

If she's invited 9 others (plus the birthday girl obviously) I woul presume they are doing something which is priced for 10 children so she had to choose her 9 closest friends. It's upsetting for her, but definitely wouldn't query it!

sosotiredagain123 Fri 09-Nov-12 22:19:02

will talk to dd and then ignore it

simplesusan Fri 09-Nov-12 22:21:45

I agree with the majority. Don't say anything.

pigletmania Fri 09-Nov-12 22:23:48

No dont such is life I am afraid

CrapBag Fri 09-Nov-12 22:24:14

No you shouldn't.

Children are not entitled to invites. The birthday child should be free to invite who they want without parents getting involved.

Maybe the birthday child had a strict number limit and had to choose her very best friends. That is what DS is going to have to do next year. Thats life and children need to learn that.

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