to hide the fact that my home is HA?

[mykidskeepmegoing]

Hi all.
Generally i hide the fact that my home is housing association. It looks like any other semi-detached house that you would find in the suburbs.
Anyway, today i was paying my rent in my local post office and one of the women from my kids school noticed my rent card. As i was lighting a ciggerette outside she asked if she could have a word.
She had a go at me for living in my home because i work. Her daughter has just had twins and her and her boyfriend are finding it hard to get a ha home (not many round here). So they live with her and her other 2 children.
Private rents around here are well overpriced, so i was very lucky to get my beloved home. I'm dreading going to get my kids from school in case she has a go again in front of other mums. I don't want anybody knowing my home is HA.
After the year i've had, i really don't need anymore grief :/

[thumper1806]

I'd tell her to feck off and mind her own business.

Why is it your problem if her daughter had kids with no home to raise them in?

[Fakebook]

Why can't you have a ha house if you're working? . The woman sounds weird.

[AdoraJingleBells]

It's really no one else's business what type of home you live in, unless you are a millionaire living in an HA house, which I'm guessing you are not.

[FayeKinitt]

But she doesn't know your circumstances? And it's not your fault her daughter decided to have children with no home to call her own

[WorraLiberty]

[MammaTJ]

Tell her to tell her daughter and her boyfriend to get jobs!!

I live in a HA house too, both me and my DP work full time but no way could we afford private rent. We do pay full rent though.

I also would not like the insecurity of private rent.

[TidyDancer]

Are you ashamed that you live in a HA home? Or you just don't want the crap from people about it?

I can't tell from your post.

Either way, that woman had no business having a go at you like that, it was patently ridiculous for her to assume she knew all about your circumstances. What did she actually say, and what did you reply?

[CrikeyOHare]

I would be inclined to ask her why her daughter got herself pregnant without having a home to bring the babies home to?

It wouldn't be any of your business, of course - but it certainly isn't any of hers how you came by your housing.

The rudeness of some people never ceases to amaze me

[LST]

Worra

[valiumredhead]

Did this happen in real life, seriously? Who are these nutters that come up and have a go at people? It has never happened to me at all and I even have a blue badge and don't particularly look disabled, I keep reading about it on MN and feel I am missing out

[ClippedPhoenix]

I live in a housing association place and I work.

Yes, tell her to piss off.

[HecatePropylaea]

Bloody rude woman.

HA houses are not just for the unemployed. What a shitty attitude she has.

But there is nothing to be ashamed/embarrassed about in living in a HA property. I live in one. There's nothing wrong with it. Tell her to sod off.

In fact, I'd be inclined to be a big bitch back and say I suggest her daughter or daughter's boyfriend gets a job themselves and they can privately rent.

I mean, if you were a millionaire in social housing, then that would be morally - although not legally - a different matter. I don't think the very wealthy should want to tie up social housing when there are people on low incomes living in B&Bs and hostels.

[SunflowersSmile]

Incredibly rude of her.
Most parents at ds school in HA housing. Do not be ashamed and fall victim to ridiculous and bazaar snobbery.
None of her business.

[mykidskeepmegoing]

I don't want the crap about it. Most people are skint around here and are stuck in private lets. I think some could be jealous too?
I don't know? HA home around here are few and far between. I've heard conversations between other mums about how they have applied for a ha home and are still waiting. They sounded really annoyed.
I generally keep myself to myself and stand out of the way. I really don't need that woman shouting at me at school.

[shesariver]

I think Worra may suspect there is more to this.

[mykidskeepmegoing]

@Wiley. I said that because i was lighting a ciggarette at the time. She caught me off guard.

[mykidskeepmegoing]

You don't have to believe me. I just need someone to tell me what to say if she does say something. I don't want to burst out crying in front of people and look like an idiot.

[WileyRoadRunner]

Ahh nkf you beat me!