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To have a right go at my neighbour for using my drive

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Ghoulelocks Fri 09-Nov-12 10:45:24

We live on a fairly busy a-road. I have a drive as does the semi next door. The other side is a large house which has no drive, but parking through an alleyway in the road behind. In the big house there's a woman who has a toddler and a baby and gets cabs everywhere. She gets two cabs a day at least and always gets them to pull over half on the pavement while she unloads. I used to say hi to her but she blanks me and the other neighbour and is generally unfriendly, normally eye-balling out the window if we dare to sit in the garden after 7pm when her kids sleep etc.

Someone else mentioned she's taken to using my drive for her cabs. Last night I came home earlier than normal and she was on my drive unloading her million and one flashy items she can't leave the house without stuff. It's dark, a busy a-road and I can't get onto my drive with traffic piling up because she's on it, getting beeped at etc with my own huge bump and toddler in the car as people come up fast behind us. I lost my rag a bit, she didn't even speed up a bit when she saw me arrive. I told her to get off my property and told her she had a right cheek (didn't shout or swear, kids present but angry tone and ranty until she'd moved as told).

Her husband this morning just came out to tell me I was 'unneighbourly' as I put out the bins. He argued she has small children and it's difficult unloading them outside their house, said I should appreciate the difficultly as I'm a mum too. I pointed out:
1. She could drive around the corner and walk back. Walking a short distance wouldn't kill her, she'd just have to unfold the buggy rather than carry it. Pulling over on the next road or in her alleyway is safer (though it's still difficult to turn a car round there)
2. If she'd had the manners to ASK me about using the drive I'd probably say yes, and tell her the hours we work that it would be ok to use it
3. They had the children when they bought the house. It's a huge house in a lovely area and they chose the big front garden over a driveway.
He just replied it was 'unchristian' of me, and he saw me going to church on Sundays. Also pointed out me and other neighbour always use each other's drives/ front gardens for access/ visitors freely. (Other neighbourly are great, the type who always say hi and pop out to help you if they see you doing heavy gardening etc or mow our side of the shared lawn. plus they have the common sense not to actually block access to the drive but park on the shared lawn in between us)

I'm fuming a bit now at them. They think they can access other's property as a bloody right without having to give anything back in terms of basic manners. They'd been there nearly a year and this is the first conversation I'm had with either of them.

Trills Fri 09-Nov-12 10:48:23

YABU, you should have had a left go at them.

HullyEastergully Fri 09-Nov-12 10:49:56

You shoulda punched her fat gob in

ChippingInLovesAutumn Fri 09-Nov-12 10:50:01

YANBU - he is, well - they are. Ignore.

nannyl Fri 09-Nov-12 10:51:44

given you are pg and have a toddler i dont think you are unreasonable to be cross that someone else is using your drive when you need it.

you are right they should have asked you first.

Ilovewaleswhenitrains Fri 09-Nov-12 11:04:45

YRNBU, she was definitely in the wrong, by acting the way she did and with sending her rude husband to speak to you.

StanleyLambchop Fri 09-Nov-12 11:04:57

Why don't you send your children over to play on her large front garden, then see how 'neighbourly' she feels toward you!!

INeedThatForkOff Fri 09-Nov-12 11:06:30

Whether they ask or not, it's still bloody dangerous to have you sat on the road while she unpacks her shit. Perhaps ask them what legal cover they have should you be hit while waiting in the road. Or block the taxi in and laugh as the meter ticks

DowagersHump Fri 09-Nov-12 11:07:03

Neighbourly goes both ways doesn't it?

MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour Fri 09-Nov-12 11:07:19

YANBU and the husband sounds like a twat

tipp2chicago Fri 09-Nov-12 11:08:25

So it's ok to expect you to risk your life sitting in busy traffic waiting to make a turn into your own property but its not ok to expect her to go around the back of her own property? Neck like a jockey's bollix...

Ghoulelocks Fri 09-Nov-12 11:13:46

Stanley I like that idea. Two teenagers, a toddler and maybe the other neighbour's kids (two teenagers and two toddlers) for football as her garden is safer as it's fenced in from the road unlike ours. She should understand as a mum...

Ghoulelocks Fri 09-Nov-12 11:16:43

I'm drip feeding but her husband is rude now you've mentioned it Ilovewales, we know him by sight walking up the road to get aggressive with cab drivers who refuse to stop directly outside but stop about 4 houses where it's a little safer (their house is actually on the junction of a crossroads of two a-roads so a particularly bad spot to stop). We've heard him swearing and shouting at a few.

CaptainVonTrapp Fri 09-Nov-12 11:17:51

I don't even care who's got what kids - parking on other peoples drives/blocking them in is rude. Why he came out to defend this is beyond me. I agree, park behind the taxi and take your time unloading or say "yes course I'll move it, just a minute" then disappear into the house for five minutes. I reckon it will stop soon.

Ghoulelocks Fri 09-Nov-12 11:23:23

Captain, that's my attitude. My property is mine, end of, only be used with my express permission or in extreme emergency (e.g. the guy who collapsed in outside and the ambulance used my drive, that time I just drove to the next road myself). It's a short drive so I couldn't get behind, though more cars can get in if they turn to the side but not if they are straight on. At some point in the thirties whoever owned their big house sold off most the garden to have 2 semi-detatched houses built on the land, their gardens go behind and next to my house and one wing of the house is behind my house. We're a little 1930's eyesore in the front garden of one of a row of very grand houses basically. Lovely location for us!

cozietoesie Fri 09-Nov-12 11:24:10

Yep. I'd block the taxis. (Given that you've not got collapsible bollards, I assume.)

diddl Fri 09-Nov-12 11:26:18

If the taxi is on your drive-that doesn´t mean that you can block him in, does it?

It´s not really their fault if told it´s OK to pull in there, is it?

I also think it´s really rude to use someone else´s drive-unless they´ve said that it´s OK between certain times.

They both sound horrible & bad mannered.

Do they not have a car?

When has being Christian meant that you have to let your ignorant neighbour use your property as if it is theirs?

cozietoesie Fri 09-Nov-12 11:29:13

Collapsible bollards might be an idea come to think of it.

Ghoulelocks Fri 09-Nov-12 11:29:15

diddl, they have a large Bentley, a black Range Rover and a small MG sports car thing. I get the impression though she's a non-driver as never seen her at the wheel and she gets a lot of cabs (I sound like I hang out the window all the time! They are parked behind my garden and dss comments on them a lot)

I agree it's not the taxi's fault, probably thought it was her house

Ghoulelocks Fri 09-Nov-12 11:30:08

cozietoesie, we're more leave the wheelie bin in the middle of the drive types...

cornycatona Fri 09-Nov-12 11:31:34

Was the cab actually parked up on your drive or parked up across the drive (so blocking the entrance but still on the public highway?)

cozietoesie Fri 09-Nov-12 11:32:18

That could work, Ghoulelocks.

Ghoulelocks Fri 09-Nov-12 11:32:56

Corny, fully on the drive which is only about a car and a half length between the pavement and front door. Had I come out the front door she'd be a foot in front of me, lights shining through the glass door lighting us up.

cozietoesie Fri 09-Nov-12 11:33:21

PS - Only problem is that it means that you would have to get out and shift it. Might be difficult with your bump?

SugaricePlumFairy Fri 09-Nov-12 11:34:15

What a right couple of arses you have for neighbours OP.

The brass neck of some people never ceases to amaze me, who the hell do they think they are? angry

As for him saying you were unneighbourly and unchristian, what a knob he is! grin

Yes, get your kids to play football on his lawn and hit it at the window, them being Parents will understand! Twats!!

Don't back down and say they can use it either, give an inch and they'll take a mile.

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