Help. This is causing so many rows at home.
My mum is 64. Long story short she has drink and mental health issues. We always used to live together until I had enough after a series of rows due to her being drunk and shouting at me. It sounds grim but we have been close too and supported each other through both of our divorcesand we cared for my gran together who died of cancer at home nine years ago. For the past year mum and I have lived apart. She has 3 small and friendly but completely unruly and boisterous dogs.
I am now remarried and I have ds 4months and dd9 years.
Mum has been very unwell for the past few weeks with what began as a serious headache. She had tests at the GP and they have told her to go to a and e and be admitted for tests this way rather than wait for a referral. They suspect it is cancer although they haven't said that word but they have said it is very serious indeed and she needs scans and more tests.
Mum is going in tomorrow. I am taking her. The hospital is an hour drive away each way. I will have to take dc with me as dh is working and cannot take time off as he is on a warning already (something unrelated, unjustly etc).
I am terribly worried about my mum and also there is a big panic about what will happen to her dogs... she has arranged for a lady from her work to come and see to them but this isn't a long term.solution. she cannot afford long term foster care or dog walkers. She has rung every charity she can. I cannot have them here, not with the baby unless I shut them in our massive kitchen extension with access to outside via dog flap but that isn't ideal. Is it? I don't want her to re home them and then recover and not have them
She would be heartbroken. They are her babies.
I am an only child. She has no other family. No boyfriend or partner. No friends apart from that one lady at work who will help with the dogs.
It's all down to me. My dh is stressed as I'm feeling so stressed with everything.
For example tomorrow I'm feeling like I should stay all day with her but that's not fair for the dc
... but I can't have my mum find out she has whatever she has on her own. So what do I do???
Dh works very long hours leaving at 7 and getting back at 8. We have no friends to ask to sit the dc and his family live a long way away so we cannot ask them.
What am I going to do? What is reasonable?
Please be kind.
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what is reasonable?? mum seriously ill.. no siblings no partner I'm an only child and i have two dc one of whom is 4 months.. help I'm going out of my mind...
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Fairylea · 09/11/2012 09:54
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