I'm sure many already feel I am unreasonable but please bear with me while I try to explain...
DP and I are getting married next year and the wedding will be on the other side of the world. I am from this other country and all my family live there. So...wherever we chose to get married would have involved international travel for one half of the family if we were to have everyone together. We chose my country as we live in the UK and get to see DP's family more often. We felt this was the fairest we could be under the circumstances.
With wider family and friends, we have let them know of the date and location, that we would be honoured if they could make it, but understand if they can't.
With DP's immediate family, we have offered to pay for flights and have arranged free accommodation for them while they are there.
PILs are going through a very difficult time financially (hence why we have tried to ensure they don't have any additional costs in order to attend our wedding). However, they have told us they can't accept our offer to pay and won't be coming.
I'm trying very hard to see things from their point of view and be sensitive to their difficulties at present but I can't help but feel desperately sad for DP that his parents won't be there to see us get married. At the risk of sounding like a bridezilla, I feel very upset about it all and don't know what to do. Hence why I am posting here...to get some perspective on how to approach this.
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GettingMarriedAbroad · 09/11/2012 09:27
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