Well AIBU(454 Posts)
Im asking for advice and opinions on how you would handle this situation
My son, 19, left college earlier this year and eventually signed on at the end of August when the casual work he had at his Uncles café dried up and all his job applications were unsuccessful
Since then he has been sanctioned twice (once for being 3 mins late to a group session at no fault of his own , but which I think fuelled his attitude of you have treated me unfairly so why should I respect you attitude
They then after the sanction recommended him for a work placement and he went to the company (JHP) for an initial interview and the guy there told him your here and youve been put on a work placement as a punishment
He, rightly or wrongly walked out and said something along the lines being punished for being 3 mins late to a group whos best advice on how to find a job was look on the internet for vacancies
He also asked if work placements were the great government scheme to help people into work why are you admitting you are putting me on this for punishment (his thinking here was if he hadnt been 3 mins late he would not have been referred for a work placement)
. he also asked If I go and stick price labels on stuff at the back of a charity shop for a month do you really think Id put that on my CV when I have skills and qualifications already , what does that say about me other than I was unemployed and put on a workscheme
They then sanctioned his job seekers again. .then suspended it indefinitely . Then sent him p45 form saying he was obviously not entitled to JSA as he did not want a job!!!!!!
We now have Alasdair Darling MP , and Andrew Burns leader of the Edinburgh council involved too but , but this is my point. . . . . . .
I created in part his attitude towards the DWP, Job Centres and work placements so should I just suck it up and continue paying for him (food, travel, roof over his head, clothes, hobbies etc) or should should I say . ..youre unemployed and until you get the means to support yourself your going have to suck it up and play ball with whatever they want you to do for £56 a week
Id really appreciate some views , thanks coz Im torn between going gonna my son It is shit, it wrong and Ill support you and Well you need to stand on your two feet
You must be very torn.
Even with qualifications/skills, if he helps in a charity shop he is doing something community minded, developing further his interpersonal skills, learning shop skills and humility, spending his empty days doing something meaningful and showing good timekeeping in the workplace. He might even spot some bargains!
I'm now sniggering at his blasting of mid 40's middle class wankers......
I'm mid 40's, no way could be classed as middle class and worked since I was 14, and since the age of 17 (did 1st year of a course that didn't work so took a trainee job instead) and worked constantly with the exception of taking 1 extra month off after my 6 months maternity pay ran out and didn't claim as it was only a month.
And all that money I paid/pay in tax he's happy to take in whatever benefits he can 'obtain' that My taxes and YOUR taxes pay for and call me a wanker for doing so (and I've NEVER spoke like that before)
well, I for one am glad you've shut the fuck up.......
BTW, martial arts are based on discipline and hard work. If you were so fucking good at your discipline they'd of taken you on FOC.......
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