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To think its a bit control freakery to dictate guests wear a certain colour to a wedding?

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sheeplikessleep Wed 07-Nov-12 21:30:55

SIL recently announced her engagement, fantastic news.

Recently found out there is a 'black and white' theme.

Now I know it's her day, blah blah, but seriously, we get told what colours to wear? Agh, means 4 new outfits for us all to buy.

AIBU to think its a bit diva-ish?

honeytea Wed 07-Nov-12 21:32:19

yanbu, buy something bright pink and pretend you didn't know.

izzywizzyisbizzy Wed 07-Nov-12 21:32:50

Ive have seen it before and tbh, the photos are all very effective, her wedding I guess.

usualsuspect3 Wed 07-Nov-12 21:33:06

Very bridezilla.


TwitchyTail Wed 07-Nov-12 21:33:31

YANBU. Wear what you want.

usualsuspect3 Wed 07-Nov-12 21:34:06

Wear a white wedding dress grin

TiggyD Wed 07-Nov-12 21:35:17

Sensible theme. Everybody should have something black and white. Not very demanding at all.

Primark do a very nice penguin onsie.

sheeplikessleep Wed 07-Nov-12 21:35:24

Oh gawd, I wouldn't dare wear a different colour, it obviously means a lot to her. It's just the thought of buying wedding outfits is daunting enough, without being limited by colour!

I could wear my wedding dress stuffed in loft maybe grin

Mrsjay Wed 07-Nov-12 21:35:38

I saw a 4 weddings with a black and white theme once everybody was to wear black somebody wore bright pink with a huge fascinator do that just to mess with her head grin

sheeplikessleep Wed 07-Nov-12 21:35:59

Oops crossed post usual

Gumby Wed 07-Nov-12 21:37:49

Everyone has black jeans & a White shirt surely?

Send kids in their school trousers grin

exoticfruits Wed 07-Nov-12 21:38:04

YANBU. I would just make it basically black and/or white but dress it up with something really colourful like a scarf. If asked you can then say 'but it is black/white'.

DameFanny Wed 07-Nov-12 21:38:53

Snorting at penguin onesie grin

sheeplikessleep Wed 07-Nov-12 21:40:07

Gumby they're grey!
Seriously I don't have a black dress. And I've got a lovely teal dress that needs an outing.
To top it all off, DH saying he is going to hire a white suit. I'm not sure if he is being serious or not. I'm thinking of man from del monte.

Chubfuddler Wed 07-Nov-12 21:40:13

Surely you would have something new to wear to a wedding in any case? It's a bit bridezilla but can you really not find something black and/or white? Really?

BackforGood Wed 07-Nov-12 21:40:27

I've heard of this (didn't the Beckhams start it all off?) but never had it happen to me. I'd have to think seriously hard about if I wanted to go to such a 'do'. In your case I'd try to chat to SiL before the formal invitations go out, and tell her how seriously controlling that is, and that a lot of people won't like it, and either won't come, or will wear something else anyway (if confident, outgoing people) or buy something they don't necessarily feel good in, and resent it (if less confident people).
I'm all for "your wedding, your choice" in principle, but seriously..... ?

BackforGood Wed 07-Nov-12 21:41:28

No Chub I wouldn't necessarily buy something new for a wedding.

Mrsjay Wed 07-Nov-12 21:42:07

H saying he is going to hire a white suit. I'm not sure if he is being serious or not. I'm thinking of man from del monte.

<snort> maybe get some pineapples for your head and you could go as mrs delmonte grin

MumToTheBoy Wed 07-Nov-12 21:42:09

We were invited to a wedding where we were told NOT to wear black, only spring colours. I was gutted cos I don't do pale colours. Was my cousins bride who made the 'request' so my mum insisted I respect it. I wore a horrid dress and when we got there I was silently fuming to see loads of people wearing black and looking lovely! But at least the bride wasn't upset with me.....

Loshad Wed 07-Nov-12 21:42:35

totally divaish. chub, why would you have to have something new for every wedding, partic as OP says there are 4 of them

Meglet Wed 07-Nov-12 21:42:38


Unless they want to buy everyones outfits then they should let them wear what they want.

sheeplikessleep Wed 07-Nov-12 21:43:03

Chub - I might have got something new, but I really struggle with dresses. I'm 5ft1, so need a petite one. It's not until next year, but I am going to see if any in shops now.

izzywizzyisbizzy Wed 07-Nov-12 21:43:39

No I wouldnt buy new for a wedding, TK Maxx is my best friend when I do though.

lola88 Wed 07-Nov-12 21:45:31

i think unless all your family and friends are loaded it's not fair

exoticfruits Wed 07-Nov-12 21:46:38

I think that, on reflection, I would say that I hadn't got anything black or white and wasn't intending to buy new.

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