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lola88 Wed 07-Nov-12 19:44:26

My friends DD managed to spill her mums cup of cola all over herself at the soft play soaking her clothes, i had spare clothes for DS in my bag so i gave her them to put on her DD, Grey joggys a red tshirt and red socks. A woman we know from mother and toddlers came in about 20 mins later and was chatting joking that friends DD looking like a boy today what happened to her lovely clothes so my friend explained, she then offered tried to force her DD's spare set of clothes for the little girl because she can't be sitting around in boys clothes. My friend told her she didn't want to have to strip and change the baby again it was fine plus we live very close so easier to get spare clothes back to me

AIBU to think thats just stupid? I have to admit i do dress DS 'like a boy' he has a very 'boyish' style (because i like it) but does it really matter that a little girl wears joggys and a t-shirt for a couple of hours. Are people really that crazy?

ScarahScreams Wed 07-Nov-12 19:46:01

yes people really are that stupid

mamamibbo Wed 07-Nov-12 19:46:04

if my baby was dry i wouldnt really care what she was wearing

Haylebop12 Wed 07-Nov-12 19:47:09

My dd owns various Spider-Man items if clothing and ALL her pyjamas are Spider-Man/pirates/transformers or Barman.

Nothing wrong with it IMO

katiecubs Wed 07-Nov-12 19:47:17

No - what an idiot! Why she was even commenting on what the girl was wearing is beyond me, sureley there are more important things in life!

cathpip Wed 07-Nov-12 19:47:35

Nope, my little boy ended up in a pair of princess knickers the other day at softplay, he liked them alot........

Haylebop12 Wed 07-Nov-12 19:48:00

Batman - don't know why she would have a Barman on her pjs!

Trills Wed 07-Nov-12 19:48:31

The "woman you know" is very weird. YANBU. I feel sorry for her children, and hope that they naturally feel like following stereotypical gender roles, because if they don't they will have a very hard time.

moggle Wed 07-Nov-12 19:48:49

that's crazy. But some people do really conform to these gender stereotypes. She'll be the parent taking dolls away from her sons and toy cars from her daughters...
something similar happened with our niece (10m) - she puked on herself while in the car to DH's cousin's house for a BBQ. So she put on an outfit belonging to the cousin's DS - red t-shirt and shorts. I thought it was great to see her in something that wasn't just all pink (to be fair she does suit pink...) but SIL (mum) kept saying to her "oh you're dressed like a boy today, you look like a boy today don't you!". Really didn't get it!

MyLastDuchess Wed 07-Nov-12 20:31:13

Shaking my head in disbelief here. People are SO strange.

lola88 Wed 07-Nov-12 20:35:11

I could see the point if she was there at the time but why would any sane mother think you'd strip and change a struggling 9mo just for a change of outfit! It's like clash of the titans trying to get them changed once!

IvorHughJackolantern Wed 07-Nov-12 20:36:56

DS won't leave the house at the moment unless he is wearing my very flowery head band thing from Claire's Accessories. I feel that your friend's friend is perhaps over-thinking the necessity of gender-specific clothing for small children...

Everlong Wed 07-Nov-12 20:39:34

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CombineBananaFister Wed 07-Nov-12 20:45:22

She is strange, aside from the whole Gender stereotype thing surely it's just common-sense to be dry and comfy over looking pretty at that age under the circumstances. I often see little girls at softplay all dressed-up and while they look lovely it's not always practical anyway as the slides/equipment give friction burns if your arms/legs aren't covered properly.

aletea Wed 07-Nov-12 20:47:03

Because people are weird cunts about children and gender.

lola88 Wed 07-Nov-12 20:56:14

Everlong DS is a dirt magnet he can get dirty eating a carrot and his hobby is pouring his water/milk out on his tray then splashing in it. I always need spare clothes!

valiumredhead Wed 07-Nov-12 20:57:58

You will learn that some people really are that thick and they are best ignored or laughed at!

Not weird, just stupid. DD has refused all skirts for at least a year ,she now dresses almost exclusively in DS's cast-offs.

Which suits me.

No doubt when she's 14 she will undergo some repulsive metamorphosis & emerge from her bedroom one day sneering, orange & covered in multi-hued, sparkling nylon.

I'm sure she'll recover from it though.

Oh & DS - DS loves to put my clothes on - he accessories better than me - the little git.

noisytoys Wed 07-Nov-12 21:05:22

Both DDs wear a lot of 'boys' clothes because they inherit them from my nephew. Not a problem at all and they don't care

Softlysoftly Wed 07-Nov-12 21:08:06

But but but but she'll catch <<whispers>> the gay shock

QuanticoVirginia Wed 07-Nov-12 21:18:22

It's not as weird as the cat breeder when I went to pick up our new male kitten who wouldn't let me take the pink mouse he was happily playing with because people would think he was 'gay'shock and insisted I took the green one instead.

I thought she was joking at first but she was deadly serious and had actually bought him a blue baby blanket so 'everyone would know he was a boy'.

I wanted to scream 'but he's cat ffs!!!!'.

OHforDUCKScake Wed 07-Nov-12 21:21:43

Did you call them joggys?

lola88 Wed 07-Nov-12 21:25:10

eh yeah they are joggys

ginmakesitallok Wed 07-Nov-12 21:25:30

DD2 had a slight accident at nursery the other day - nursery just changed her pants to a nursery pair. DMIL (who picks her up) was shock as "she had her own spare pair in her bag!!" I explained that they probably weren't able to get to them and it would be easier to get the nursery ones which are kept in the loos. DMIL said not to worry - she'd changed her into her own ones when she got her home and she had washed the other 2 pairs already. Now - why did she change her when she got home? And does she not think I am capable of washing a couple of pairs of toddlers pants?? confused

Arthurfowlersallotment Wed 07-Nov-12 21:25:40

If I dress my daughter in so called neutral colours, then people think she's a boy. I also have a pair of jeans for her with a mechanic badge on and was told by a lady in the supermarket that they were boy's jeans...

Today I bought her some 'boy's' bibs in Boots, as clearly pirates are not for girls...

It's all bollocks and people really are that dense.

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