This is a genuine AIBU- I can't work out what to do for the best and am worried that I would be being unreasonable to decline her request.
My lovely DSis is about to return to work after maternity leave, she works a job involving shifts and as her exP left during her pregnancy, she is now a single mum. She's doing fantastically well and whilst it has been a hard journey, I think she's getting there in terms of being on her feet again.
I help out with childcare for her as often as I can- which isn't as often as I am sure she (and I) would like as I work 5 days and have 2 dc of my own, plus we live 15 miiles away so not just a quick trot across the road.
One of her upcoming shifts is over a weekend and she has asked me if I would look after the baby, her elder two will be visiting their dad that weekend (different dad to the baby). Originally the babys dad was going to look after her as it was one of "his " weekends but that arrangement has all gone to pot as his behaviour has deteriorated to the point that dsis is uncomfortable with the baby being in his presence and the courts are getting involved.
Problem is, its a really busy weekend for us with a number of things going on and events (childrens, not mine or DH's) as well as DC2's bday party. It would be really hard to do this with my gorgeous niece in tow, no matter how much I love her. (activity-based party rather than village hall type thing)
I feel bad that my sister has reached out to me for help but I feel like it would be very difficult for me to have the baby all weekend. (Would be Friday 7pm until at least 8pm on Sunday.)
AIBU to say I'm sorry I cant help, given that this would only be her second shift back at work and that baby might have to go to her dads if I can't do it? Am at a loss as to which way to go.
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Simpkins · 07/11/2012 14:25
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