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To not want to take in next-doors parcels?

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issiri · 07/11/2012 08:32

I moved into my new house 3 weeks ago. My next-door neighbours must run a business of some sort as they get parcels from DHL or YODEL almost every day.

Almost every day we get a knock on our front door. "sorry to bother you, these are for your neighbours who are not answering their door"

On next-doors front door they have a sign saying "If we are not in, please leave parcels at Number **"

This has presumably always been an arrangement with the previous owners of this house. However, they have not asked us if it is ok and tbh I'm getting VERY sick of opening the door to receive more parcels and then having to wait for next-door to come knocking, usually after 9pm.

I've spoken lightheartedly to next-door saying "You do have a lot of parcels, dont you" and "I think we'll need a bigger house for your parcels"

Without causing problems between us and next-door, what I can I do about this situation?

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Justforlaughs · 07/11/2012 08:36

Not answer the door when the postman knocks Grin

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GhostShip · 07/11/2012 08:37

Don't answer the door or refuse the delivery. Yodel will re-arrange a delivery once, and if they don't comply to it it'll go back to the sender.

It's up to your neighbours to be responsible for the parcels. They should have at least asked you did you mind, ignorant shits.

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Everlong · 07/11/2012 08:38

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MrsHoarder · 07/11/2012 08:39

Put a note on your door "We don't take parcels for Number **"

Or think about what would make you happy and say "As we're taking your parcels most days, could you please X?"

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Pascha · 07/11/2012 08:40

I've hidden from the delivery man before. Just don't answer, and if it doesn't stop quickly then have a word.

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Dawndonna · 07/11/2012 08:40

I take next doors parcels, they take mine. It doesn't take two minutes. If you don't want them dropping by after nine, take them round to them earlier.

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Sirzy · 07/11/2012 08:40

You need to talk to the neighbour. If they have a sign in their door which has been there for ages they have probably forgot all about it and not even considered it (wrong I know but it it is easy to do)

Don't take it in if your not happy to do so, but remember that means your neighbour won't reciprocate when the time comes and you need a parcel taking in!

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HecatePropylaea · 07/11/2012 08:42

Don't answer the door.
Refuse to take in the parcel and say that sign is nothing to do with me, it was an arrangement with the previous owner of this house
Ask them to take the sign down, say that you can't agree to carry on with any arrangement they happened to have with the previous occupiers.

If you want to make avoiding any possibility of the neighbours getting the hump then your only option is to keep taking in the parcels.

If you don't want to do that, then I suggest one of the above Grin

I think you can't guarantee both. You have to choose. But the longer you leave it - the harder it will be.

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OldBagWantsNewBag · 07/11/2012 08:43

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HecatePropylaea · 07/11/2012 08:44

If you want to make avoiding any possibility of the neighbours getting the hump your priority then your only option is to keep taking in the parcels.

That should read. Grin

Taking in the odd parcel is neighbourly.

Taking in parcels practically every day because there's a sign in their window and they haven't even ASKED you is having the piss taken out of you

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issiri · 07/11/2012 08:45

What I forgot to add to my original post was, the neighbours seem really nice. When we first moved in they pushed a "welcome to your new home" card round which introduced us to them and also had their phone numbers on in case we ever needed to contact them. They then came around 2 days later with a house plant, chocolates and wine Shock

Upon realising we have 9 children, they pushed through an envelope with 9 £1 coins in it, "for the children to buy themselves some sweeties"

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AndBingoWasHisNameOh · 07/11/2012 08:46

Hiding won't help because the sign will keep directing them to you. You have to speak to them and say whilst you don't mind the odd one it has become disruptive and so you'd like them to take the sign down.

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HecatePropylaea · 07/11/2012 08:47

Then either they are really lovely people or they knew what was coming and wanted to make you feel you really ought to be a warehouse for such lovely people Grin

Either way, the fact they were so welcoming does not mean you have to be a storage unit for them.

Just tell them. Nicely. Please take the sign down, I really can't commit to taking in your parcels.

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OldBagWantsNewBag · 07/11/2012 08:49

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LFCisTarkaDahl · 07/11/2012 08:51

You have a perfect excuse in the 9 children.

"I'm so sorry I can't take in any more parcels for you as the delivery man woke the baby today"

Look exhausted, harassed and terribly apologetic.

If you can't say it to their face, put a note through saying it - only a deeply unpleasant person wouldn't take their sign down after that.

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TwitchyTail · 07/11/2012 08:52

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oreocrumbs · 07/11/2012 08:53

I would answer the door to the delivery men and say no.

They won't bat an eyelid and will take the parcels away. I don't think that they would ever tell your neighbour that the lady at number 7 won't take your parcels.

And if your neighbour ever says to you - I saw you answer the door and refuse to take my parcel, then she is monumentally taking the piss and you can cheerfully tell her she should answer her own bloody door if she wants parcels!

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Arthurfowlersallotment · 07/11/2012 09:02

Let your children loose on the next parcel and hand it over apologetically.

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Mrsjay · 07/11/2012 09:03

If it is the odd parcel I wouldnt bother but it is every day and maybe a few parcels at a time nah i would get them to re deliver say oh I am not going to see them put a card through the door and ask them if they could remove their sign as you are not always able to take in their parcels,

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Sirzy · 07/11/2012 09:05

Mrsjay - why should it be the delivery men asking them to remove the sign? If she doesn't want to do it that's not a problem but she needs to talk to them not ask someone else to do it.

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Caerlaverock · 07/11/2012 09:05

Ask them to do reciprocal baby sitting, I imagine the sign will come down pretty quick. 9 children!

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Mrsjay · 07/11/2012 09:07

Oh so they were nice and gave the children a pound manipulative buggers Grin still stands though you are not a warehouse you dont need parcels up and down your hallway OR 1 of your 9 children could have got into a parcel Wink

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Mrsjay · 07/11/2012 09:08

I actually meant she asked them to remove the sign not the delivery driver

I must learn to use a comma or 2 in my posts Blush

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thegreylady · 07/11/2012 09:10

Sneak next door while they are out and remove the sign yourself or cross out your number and rite in the other neighbour's.

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AKissIsNotAContract · 07/11/2012 09:11

Maybe they actually are nice people and didn't give the money to be manipulative.

I'm too scared to knock next door and ask for the parcel they took in for me yesterday after reading this.

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