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Sluttybuttons Tue 06-Nov-12 20:59:05

It just reminds me that i dont matter to anybody. Its my birthday tomorrow and i already know that lots of people that dont even speak to me will post on facebook saying happy birthday but the chances are i wont even speak to any body and the chances of getting a card let alone anything else is pretty much nil.
Before people come along and say im a grown up and birthdays are for kids, im not looking for presents or to have a fuss made of me. It just reminds me that i have nobody in my life who even thinks about me

MrsTerryPratchett Tue 06-Nov-12 21:05:02

Happy Birthday for tomorrow Slutty. I don't think birthdays are just are kids. You deserve a card as much as anyone. Can you get out of the house, tell a random person it is your birthday?

Sluttybuttons Tue 06-Nov-12 21:09:34

To be honest id be happy if i could just stay in and sleep but i will have the school run to do so no chance of that.

MrsTerryPratchett Tue 06-Nov-12 21:11:19

Won't your kid/s wish you a happy birthday and be forced to make a card.

moopoint Tue 06-Nov-12 21:12:58

I hate my birthday too. It's very close to Christmas so very much an after thought to everyone.

Happy birthday for tomorrow thanks

Sluttybuttons Tue 06-Nov-12 21:13:54

the twins are only 2 and dd1 will but (i know i sound ungrateful) i would like to matter to somebody other than my kids

AdoraBell Tue 06-Nov-12 21:14:37

Tell someone when you get to school. Do you work or will you have time to get a coffee or something with another mum/s.

Happy birthday for tomorrow thanks

MrsTerryPratchett Tue 06-Nov-12 21:16:30

You don't sound ungrateful, just a bit sad. I turn 40 next week so am a bit sad about birthdays too, and thousands of miles from family.

Sluttybuttons Tue 06-Nov-12 21:21:05

i feel sad, lonely and insignificant. The only thing that stops me from just vanishing is my kids. Nobody else would notice

MrsTerryPratchett Tue 06-Nov-12 21:22:21

I know it's rotten but to those kids you are one of the only people in the world that really matters. If you are feeling depressed, get some support. Really do and quickly.

Sluttybuttons Tue 06-Nov-12 21:24:40

Last time i asked for help and support i had social workers all over me making me feel even worse. I am never asking for anything again

StrawWars Tue 06-Nov-12 21:26:41

Thing is, people are busy and it's hard enough remembering PE kits and dentist appointments, as well as birthdays of immediate family - if you TELL PEOPLE it's your birthday, instead of moping about waiting to be noticed, I am sure there would be people more than happy to pop out to the pub for a birthday drink with you, etc. Just ask them! Be proactive. Carpe diem, and all that.

Idocrazythings Tue 06-Nov-12 21:27:59

I'm sure you do matter to somebody other than your kids, you just haven't figured out who they are. I'm sure many people value you in their life, but because we are all so busy in our own lives we don't take the time to let people know… and I'm sure you are extremely busy, and tired too, with two year old twins, and an older child- that you haven't been able to notice. It's sad out society is like that- (sometimes I want to run away and live in a tribe where everyone cares for each other, helps look after each others children and are not driven by money, being at the the next place and stuff)

Can you take them to a soft play or similar and buy yourself a really big coffee and cake and chuck them in in the ball pit for 10min? (The children, not the coffee and cake).

I truly wish you a happy birthday tomorrow (not a fake Facebook one) xx (unmumsnetty kisses)

SoleSource Tue 06-Nov-12 21:31:10

Shall we go wild and swap mobile numbers?

shock smile

McChristmasPants2012 Tue 06-Nov-12 21:32:14

I hate my birthday, it is so close to christmas and nobody puts the effort like the rest of the birthdays in the year

Sluttybuttons Tue 06-Nov-12 21:34:47

straw people know its my birthday but im not fun and cant go to the pub. I know im boring and anybody i know has people who thy can have fun with and go to the pub with.

I truly have nothing going for me. Im fat, ugly, boring, unemployed and a single parent. Why would i matter to anybody

lurkedtoolong Tue 06-Nov-12 21:36:14

Happy birthday for tomorrow. I don't think birthdays are just for kids and it's one day a year that everyone should be a little bit spoiled and loved. I'm sorry there isn't someone to be with you. But unmumsnetty hugs and kisses.

thanks wine

StrawWars Tue 06-Nov-12 21:36:14

You do sound depressed. Go see your GP.

SoleSource Tue 06-Nov-12 21:41:34

I tried.

Happy Birthday smile

Sluttybuttons Tue 06-Nov-12 21:46:39

sorry im being pathetic.

SoleSource Tue 06-Nov-12 21:53:16

I feel the same slutty, would be great to have a texting buddy at least.

StrawWars Tue 06-Nov-12 21:54:51

If you're depressed, you're not being pathetic, you're ill. If you broke your leg, you wouldn't blame yourself for not being able to walk on it. Seriously, go see your doctor and tell them how you're feeling.

Iodine Tue 06-Nov-12 22:22:52

Happy birthday for tomorrow!

If it's any consolation last year I took my birthday off facebook. I figured, I manage to remember my close friend's birthdays and send a card each year so they shoukd be able to.

Not.A.Single.Person who I would consider a friend sent me any kind of message. Even my own brother didn't say anything all day and I was in my parents house with him all afternoon. I will admit that I cried. To realise how little I mean to everyone was a real low point.

I'm sorry you're going through this too. [flowers]

cocolepew Tue 06-Nov-12 22:28:27

It' s my birthday tomorrow too, obviously all the best people were born on the 7th grin

Go and have a chat with your dr. If you are depressed, get medication to help you.

You matter to the most important people, your DCs.

Sluttybuttons Tue 06-Nov-12 22:30:10

I cant ask for help after last time. It just made me feel like i was a crap mum as well as a crap person. I cant go through that again

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