This is more from my dh point of view so his parents but my inlaws. May be long.
Anyway ever since we had our son they have always had a thing about just asking for him not asking if we as a family would like to join them, one example was a kite festival rather than asking if we would all like to join them for the day they just asked if they could take our son even though its a free event etc.
Also with digging about having him by themselves via other family members and comments such as "Aunty X wants to know when I'm next having the boy so we can have a play date", Aunty X has never mentioned to us about wanting to arrange a play date with her DGD and our DS regardless of who would be looking after DS but it comes out of MILS mouth a lot.
Anyway fast forward and we also have a DD now, however the invites still remain the same would DGS, never both and about 1% of the time would we as a family.
Its the same if they bring DS a chocolate bar/milkshake/yoghurt round they will not of brought anything round for DD.. Again MIL goes "I told grandad I was going to buy DGS a new fleece so he gave me money to buy both one"..
Now the Inlaws are by no means short of cash and its not spending that is the issue its the fact its always om favor of DS while DD is basically ignored.
The children are only young both preschool and under ages, Dh seems to hope they will just start to realize that the way they are treating the children differently is wrong and they will change at some point. However I believe if he really wants things to change he needs to have words. MIL has also started being funny with me this month but that would be a whole different thread.
So who is being unreasonable? Us for expecting them to treat their only grandchildren equally? Oh for just having a fingers crossed approach or me for saying just talk to them?
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Chattymummyhere · 06/11/2012 15:41
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