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DH likes sitting in a frigging dark room. I don't.

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MrsCantSayAnything Mon 05-Nov-12 23:05:05

He likes having only one very dim lamp on and the TV....I can't see the point in this.

I can't frigging see!

I have two or three lamps on myself.

I have agreed to having the lighting how he wants it because he's been working late and I've been here most of the evening.

But really. AIBU to think if you want a dark room, go to the cinema or to bed!!

Alisvolatpropiis Mon 05-Nov-12 23:06:38

YANBU!!!!! In fact I think you may be me. Have exact same problem with my OH. I'll blame him when I go blind young tosser

InNeedOfAPennyForTheGuysBrandy Mon 05-Nov-12 23:06:45

I hate dark rooms, I don't like the main light on though, lamps lamps and more lamps.

MrsCantSayAnything Mon 05-Nov-12 23:07:27

I like the main lamp if I am crafting something....AND lamps.

Time enough for the dark when you're dead imo.

BreconBeBuggered Mon 05-Nov-12 23:11:17

Fuck, yes. DH has no sense of a happy medium at all. It's either all the ceiling lights on, or every last lamp off while he watches some shite. YANBU.

tethersend Mon 05-Nov-12 23:11:28

When I was a teenager I used to have a friend whose dad wouldn't allow the telly and the light to be on at the same time as it cost money- they had to choose which one they wanted grin

Alibabaandthe40nappies Mon 05-Nov-12 23:13:19

I hate having the main lights on in our living room.

When my parents come here they always turn the bloody lights on because they can't see anything grin

In fairness we do have it quite dim, but I like it because it is soothing and hides most of the stains on the carpet

Dryjuice25 Mon 05-Nov-12 23:19:57

Maybe he is trying to create a romantic ambience?

Dryjuice25 Mon 05-Nov-12 23:23:02

Alibaba- lol at that name. Ha ha. What happened, sorry couldn't resist?

ecclesvet Mon 05-Nov-12 23:31:42

I love having just a lamp and TV on - gives a cosier ambiance, dontchaknow.

MrsCantSayAnything Mon 05-Nov-12 23:33:06

Dry no. He's trying to watch True Blood. hmm Bloody vampires.

I don't want cosy! Bed is for cosy. When you're awake you need to be DOING!

ecclesvet Mon 05-Nov-12 23:36:43

It's half eleven! I stopped doing things hours ago.

InNeedOfAPennyForTheGuysBrandy Mon 05-Nov-12 23:36:55

I love my living room cosy, I have a thing for lamps and throws and cushions, but sitting with just the telly on is not cosy. (unless its 1D on ey mrscantsay wink gets a bit steamy then)

SleeveOfWizard Mon 05-Nov-12 23:40:25

YANBU! I could have written your post. And to make it worse, we are only allowed to have the lowest wattage possible. I'm talking cave-like existence here.

squeakytoy Mon 05-Nov-12 23:40:43

I get headaches if I watch tv without a light on, and I love ambient light anyway, so there are always lots of lamps on in our house.. its a pain in the arse going round to turn them off at bedtime though!

My husband will happily sit and watch tv in the dark, I refuse to.

SleeveOfWizard Mon 05-Nov-12 23:41:10

Oh and we aren't allowed to have the blind on the front window open either, as 'folk can see in'. Wtf.

UltraBOF Mon 05-Nov-12 23:43:44

I love having low light in the evening- it's cosy. Ideally with a nice fire flickering away. 'Doing' is for daytime.

MrsCantSayAnything Mon 05-Nov-12 23:46:04

I don't mind ambient lighting. But LIGHTING is the operative word here. ONE lamp with a low wattage is NOT lighting.

MurderOfGoths Tue 06-Nov-12 01:14:25

I love sitting in a darkened room, even better if it's lit only by candlelight. I find having lots of lights on all the time really draining.

vvviola Tue 06-Nov-12 01:22:04

We finally managed a compromise on this one. All lights are off when we're watching tv, with the exception of my lamp (an angled one from ikea that's directed at my seat). I have enough light to knit by, he's in the dark-ish. If we're watching a movie together I turn my lamp off.

CaliforniaLeaving Tue 06-Nov-12 01:58:32

I have all the lights on when I watch TV I get a headache in half light. I think I'm going blind when it's TV in the dark. I'm restless too and tend to do other things while I watch so darkness is awful for me. It feel like I'm in trouble for something and sitting in time out, no talking (cause they are watching a show) and no lights (so I can't do anything else,) It's like "sit still and shut up"! Torture!

ripsishere Tue 06-Nov-12 02:07:44

Imagine having fluorescent lighting. That's my choice. Darkness or strip lights. Admittedly they have a cover on them with a texture, but four of them in our living room?

sparkleyangel Tue 06-Nov-12 02:27:14

Can't stand a brightly lit room when watching telly.

sparkleyangel Tue 06-Nov-12 02:38:20

I have agreed to having the lighting how he wants it because he's been working late and I've been here most of the evening.

OP if you have been there most of the evening why didn't you do what you needed before he came home if you knew that would be how he wanted it. Plus there must be other rooms in your house for you to get on with whatever you want?

VintageRainBoots Tue 06-Nov-12 02:38:34

Hubby likes to watch the telly in the dark, too. He says it feels more like a cinema that way, and that any stray light is distracting.

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