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To be pissed about this?

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CailinDana Sun 04-Nov-12 22:17:08

Sock it to me: if you were staying with your DH's aunt and uncle over the weekend, along with DH's parents, would you be pissed if your MIL called your DH into the bedroom you were staying him to ask him to tidy it up because guests later in the day would be using the en suite in that room? Bear in mind that in this scenario you were tending to your child and were going to tidy the room up any minute, but just hadn't go around to it.

usualsuspect3 Sun 04-Nov-12 22:18:42

Nah, she was just reminding him.

I wouldn't be pissed about it.

WorraLiberty Sun 04-Nov-12 22:18:43

No but I would be pissed off if she asked me to tidy it if I was tending to the child.

Or were you both tending?

BoysBoysBoysAndMe Sun 04-Nov-12 22:18:51

Personally, it wouldn't bother me.

I'd have just said we were about to do it.

RubyFakeNails Sun 04-Nov-12 22:19:50

No, if you're 'tending to the child' I'd think why the fuck wasn't DH tidying it up anyway. Why did his mother feel the need to ask him to do it. Also its just tidying a room, theres no way I could get pissed off about that, plus it seems a perfectly reasonable request.

Ithinkitsjustme Sun 04-Nov-12 22:20:35

Actually i'd be pissed off that she was in a room, that to all intents and purposes, were Mine for the duration of my stay.

CailinDana Sun 04-Nov-12 22:21:50

I was pissed, but then I'm pregnant and pregnant Cailin means ANGRY Cailin so I needed some (relatively) normal people to give me some guidance as to how non enraged people think. What pissed me off was the fact that she was snooping around our room and then told us (which is the way I see it when she orders DH about) to tidy it up like we were children. It seems interfering to me. But, as I said, I have the ANGER.

CailinDana Sun 04-Nov-12 22:23:34

Plus, it's not even MIL's house, and DH's aunt would never interfere like that.

usualsuspect3 Sun 04-Nov-12 22:24:40

I might have said we were going too don't worry, but I would have got over it.

CailinDana Sun 04-Nov-12 22:27:04

She did asked DH in a cloak-and-dagger sort of way, I didn't find out till later that she had done it. She knew I would be annoyed about it.

CailinDana Sun 04-Nov-12 22:31:14

I don't know, it just seemed so rude to me. I mean I would never go into her room and then summon her or her DH to tidy it up. Am I really BU?

<waits for chorus of YES!>
Bear in mind I am pregnant and will sit on you if you annoy me. Which is easily done.

gail734 Sun 04-Nov-12 22:35:45

Interested to hear that you have the pregnancy anger. I had a very calm pregnancy, and I now have the breastfeeding anger. I have now been raging for four months. Poor DH is usually the bewildered victim. I don't think YABU, and this is why I hate staying in anyone else's house. I would honestly rather stay in a hotel. I hate the feeling of having no control, and having to be polite even when angry!

blackeyedsusan Sun 04-Nov-12 22:36:57

no, I owuld be pissed off too with mil for snooping around the room. (my mil wouldn't I think)

mind you I have a raging tooth ache so am pissed off for at least the next 30 minutes whilst waiting for painkillers to kick in. .. so I am not relativley normal at the moment either! grin

CailinDana Sun 04-Nov-12 22:37:21

I hate it too gail, although DH's aunt is absolutely lovely and a wonderful host. MIL gets totally wound up in situations like that though and drives me mad. It would have been fine if she hadn't been there.

BFing made me antsy. It's all the hormonal soup. Messes with your head.

HumphreyCobbler Sun 04-Nov-12 22:39:54

I am not pregnant but I would be annoyed by this. Not enough to say or do anything about it but it would piss me off and I would moan to DH.

The implication is that you are an untidy mare who needs encouragement to do something as ordinary as tidy up in a house you were a visitor in. Of course you would have tidied it up before you left it.

HumphreyCobbler Sun 04-Nov-12 22:40:57

bollocks, though, I might not be pg but I am pre-menstrual grin

bigbuttons Sun 04-Nov-12 22:41:44

It's PISSED OFF not pissed

vigglewiggle Sun 04-Nov-12 22:42:41

Unless you are American, YABU to be "pissed" about anything.

<pet hate>

vigglewiggle Sun 04-Nov-12 22:43:53

X-post bigbuttons

CailinDana Sun 04-Nov-12 22:44:11


CailinDana Sun 04-Nov-12 22:44:32

Feed me cake instead. But buy me Gaviscon first.

cheekydevil Sun 04-Nov-12 22:48:09

Might not be a good time to tell OP that being 'pissed' in UK means being 'drunk'?
She is hormonal <runs>

toomuchmonthatendofthemoney Sun 04-Nov-12 22:50:13

Did DH say anything back to her? Like "mother you're being a twat pain, it's not your house, it's our room and we are adults, go nosy somewhere else" by any chance? No? Sit on him OP!!

IceAndSliceOfBrainsPlease Sun 04-Nov-12 22:52:17

I'd feel peeved, I think, but I wouldn't have The Rage...if I were pregnant, then it's likely I'd burst into tears and wail 'oh my god, everyone is getting at me! Why? Why?? WhYYYYYY???'

It would piss me off because there's the unspoken assumption that you are a) a manky cow who's made your bathroom skanky, and b) you need to be told how naice people expect things to be. If it were a comment over breakfast 'Oh, don't forget to tidy your stuff away in the bathroom for later', then it's fine. It's the snooping/inspecting factor of MIL poking around that would piss me off in this context.

CailinDana Sun 04-Nov-12 22:52:51

Oh poor DH he already has to live with me! I do feel for him when his mother and I have to spend any length of time in close proximity - he always gets stuck in the middle. She is a nice person really but then she goes and does things like this and I see red. I struggle to have a proper friendship with her as I feel she doesn't respect me.

DH deserves a medal, poor bastard.

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