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to be sad dd does not like our home...........

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booksinbed Sun 04-Nov-12 20:34:02

Dd has often told me, although we have happy times here, she does not like our home.She is not a spolit madam i promise !! She just does not share our taste.We have a thin vicotian terrace which is mostly wooded floors- the rooms are small and run in a series of small rooms with a downstairs kitchen- the stairs run up the middle of the house so even if walls were removed the stairs wd be in the middle unless we did major work to change the is really thin hence we have no hall way just open room from f garden.

I really loved my childhood home ,which was a detatched 1930S home with cosy carpets and traditional furniture.
We live in a lovely area were we have 90 ft thin gardens and the neighbours are all lovely - it s like a village.especially as folk pop in and you can hear thro the walls!!!our area is v expensive for our city as its popular with familes and academics and you can walk into the city.
I think we are really lucky and i like the house but i know for the money you can get higher spec 1970 type or modern houses for the same or less near by and inthe next town a big house with double or more size rooms - our are 12 x 12 ??.It feels so sad to me that Dd has always found own home odd - its 4 floors- like a telephone box!! and wants a open feeling home ...when we go to that type of prp on holiday or freinds she is in her element- i really want her to have happy memories of family home not that it s odd!!!!feeling a bit emotional re this - sorry .

mrskeithrichards Sun 04-Nov-12 20:36:28


BadgersBottom Sun 04-Nov-12 20:38:23

Riiiiiiiiiiiiiight. Errrrrm......................

mrskeithrichards Sun 04-Nov-12 20:40:20

So it's not just me then?

squeakytoy Sun 04-Nov-12 20:40:24

how old is this child?

RubyFakeNails Sun 04-Nov-12 20:40:28

Has she said her memories are influenced by the design of the house?

I grew up in a mould ridden, run-down horrible council flat on a horrible estate in whats considered a not very nice part of London. My parents have always had hmm tastes in regards to decorating and I always found our home a bit embarrassing.

However, I have wonderful childhood memories. I think you're being ridiculous and precious.

Its not to do with if your house is nice or not, or if she's justified in her thoughts. Its just the way she feels.

valiumredhead Sun 04-Nov-12 20:41:25

Gosh - have no idea where to start!

NotQuintAtAllOhNo Sun 04-Nov-12 20:41:32

I like those Victorian terraces with wood floors and small rooms, like living room, dining room, and a galley kitchen with windows in both directions. I think they are nice. Up the stairs to 2/3 bedrooms and bathroom.

I like them. They are traditional.

How old is your dd?

Caerlaverock Sun 04-Nov-12 20:41:34


Caerlaverock Sun 04-Nov-12 20:42:19

Look on the bright side, no matter how small the rooms she will still have room to play her tiny violin

HecatePhosphorus Sun 04-Nov-12 20:42:26

Well, you can hardly knock down walls to make her happy grin and you can't really move home because your daughter wants a different layout grin

What about making her room her space? Giving her total control over how it's decorated? Or does she have that already?

fwiw, my children moan all the time about our home. It's a bog standard 2 bed semi.

Kids tend to have a big 'grass is greener' thing going on and if you lived in a two up two down and your friends and family lived in a 'telephone box' - I promise you she'd be wanting that instead grin

NotQuintAtAllOhNo Sun 04-Nov-12 20:42:34

In 10 years from now, she will hopefully look back with fond memories, regardless of the house and decor.

booksinbed Sun 04-Nov-12 20:42:48

DD is a TEEN!!!!!!!!!

fantashtic Sun 04-Nov-12 20:42:55

You said it, RubyFakeNails!

my childhood home (while nice in its own way) is not somewhere I'd choose to live now, but I have lovely, lovely memories.

Am sure if as a 15 year old I'd been asked, I would have imagined myself much happier and in my element in a Friends-style flat or Joey from Dawsons Creek house...

Don't worry or be sad op!

mrskeithrichards Sun 04-Nov-12 20:42:59

grin grin

parakeet Sun 04-Nov-12 20:43:28

Most children think whatever they grow up with is normal.

Are you sure you are not projecting your own uncertainties about your house's architecture onto your daughter?

NotQuintAtAllOhNo Sun 04-Nov-12 20:43:41

Oh, so it is normal for a teen to not like/be embarrassed about her house.

Fret not!

fantashtic Sun 04-Nov-12 20:43:50

Tiny violin haha grin

HecatePhosphorus Sun 04-Nov-12 20:44:07

Oh well, there you go then.

She wouldn't be happy even if the walls were made of gold grin

valiumredhead Sun 04-Nov-12 20:44:21

I'd tell her to get over her self and start saving and when she has enough money she can have HER house exactly as she wants it!

NotQuintAtAllOhNo Sun 04-Nov-12 20:44:23

For all you know, her dd plays the Cello or contrabass .

parakeet Sun 04-Nov-12 20:44:32

PS - this has to be the very definition of a First World Problem

mrskeithrichards Sun 04-Nov-12 20:44:53

Leave the bastard.

NotQuintAtAllOhNo Sun 04-Nov-12 20:45:17

Ups, it is not really called contrabass, is it??

It is like a mahoooosive floorbased violin, and you stand next to it, playing it, holding onto it.

Not a harp, nor a harpsichord.

NotQuintAtAllOhNo Sun 04-Nov-12 20:46:26


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