Hi - my first time posting in AIBU - I need some perspective but am also quite emotional so please be gentle!
A bit of background - I had a DD 8 weeks ago, had major issues with breastfeeding so am FF. This is my parents first GD and the 6th for my DH's family. My parents live locally half of the week and 200 miles away for the other half so they only have the opportunity to see my DD every other weekend.
The weekends I don't see my parents I make sure I see my DH's parents and also go and see them once in the week. My DH is very close to his family and sees them every weekend. I see my parents with our DD without him.
I am finding it difficult to let my DD out without me as I am still quite emotional and attached. We have been inundated with offers of babysitting and I have gratefully accepted these but for a time when I feel I am ready.
My husband said today that he wants to take our DD Xmas shopping without me one weekend. The weekend he has asked for is one that my parents are here. I asked if I could meet up with him and his family later as I am still not ready to be separated for a long period of time. He said yes but not until after 3pm. he wants to take our DD out at 7.30am. My DH then went mad and said I favour my family over his and he is sick of not being able to spend time with our DD with his family on his own. When I see my parents it is on my own as he goes to his parents house to watch the sports. I make as much effort as I can to make sure his parents do not miss out on time with our DD.
My questions are this...
AIBU to be upset at my DH wanting to spend the day with his family without me and AIBU to ask him to choose a weekend when my parents are not here so they don't miss out on seeing their only GC?
I was very upset at not being able to BF and feel sometimes that as I am FF people can't wait to take our DD off my hands despite how it makes me feel.
I know he is her father and is entitled to spend quality time with her on his own but is he BU for putting time limits on it and picking a weekend when my parents are here?
Thanks very much for your wise advice
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rubberducky24 · 04/11/2012 11:43
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