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over feeling uneasy that a 38 year old woman is a GM for the third timr

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SoleSource Sat 03-Nov-12 13:03:45

because her DD has had a third child?

(parent at DS school)

I am 38...one child aged 14.

Is my attitude a bit old fashioned? Is this becoming the norm?

PhyllisDoris Sat 03-Nov-12 13:05:11

So how old is the mother.

louloutheshamed Sat 03-Nov-12 13:05:58

I don't think your the old fashioned one! I would have though hundreds of years ago this would be more common!

Nancy66 Sat 03-Nov-12 13:06:04

i once saw an ad in our local paper

"HAPPY 30TH BIRTHDAY GRANDMA!!"

WorraLiberty Sat 03-Nov-12 13:06:52

It's the norm in some countries in the world but not really the UK - no.

SoleSource Sat 03-Nov-12 13:07:08

19 is how old the Mother is

CruCru Sat 03-Nov-12 13:07:13

Well if she became a GM for the first time aged 32 then both she and her daughter could have been 16 when they had a child. It is young but it isn't illegal and there are places where it isn't unusual. Did you ever see Gypsy Weddings?

SoleSource Sat 03-Nov-12 13:08:06

No Nancy ! Arrrgh

DioneTheDiabolist Sat 03-Nov-12 13:08:08

YABVU and judgey. Why are you feeling uneasy about something that is none of your business?hmm

BTW, far from becoming the norm, this situation was quite common when people married and had children young.

HecatePhosphorus Sat 03-Nov-12 13:09:47

No. I think nationwide the average age people have children is rising. (I think I remember reading that somewhere). People used to have children far, far younger than they do these days.

But yes, there are places where it's normal to have a child at 15 or 16 and for your child to have children at the same age. I grew up in such a place. It wasn't seen as unusual to be a parent before you were legally an adult yourself.

SecretCermonials Sat 03-Nov-12 13:10:31

Why do you care? My mum is 38 and a nanny soon to be of two, she is my step mum, but i call her mum and if anyone was small minded enough to judge on that then id say it says more about them than us! How very very small minded, as long children are loved and well looked after a parent (or GPs) age is irrelevant angry

Mrsjay Sat 03-Nov-12 13:12:17

a lot of the 'girls' i went to school with are grandmas a young woman i work with she is 21/22 her mum is younger than me i am 41 blush
a few of the parents where i work mothers are around my age with grandchildren
why are you uneasy women do have babies young so women become grandparents young my own mother had me at 19 so she was a young gran, infact some of the girls dd went to school with have babies, YABU and a little bit judgemental

MammaTJ Sat 03-Nov-12 13:12:18

Unless they are asking you to babysit, then you have nothing to feel 'uneasy' about.

mamamibbo Sat 03-Nov-12 13:12:24

my aunty was a grandma at 30

yabu, its none of your business, my mum had me at 18, i had ds at 18, im nearly 30 now and i have 4 dc's

WorraLiberty Sat 03-Nov-12 13:13:11

My sister married at 19 and had her first baby at 20 and my niece did the same thing so she was a granny at 40.

She loved it because she almost felt broody but having a DGC hit the spot!

SoleSource Sat 03-Nov-12 13:13:40

I guess because I do not want people to think I am a Granny at 38!

Mrsjay Sat 03-Nov-12 13:13:41

I know I am harping on my nana was a great gran at 68 so she started having her babies as a young woman

Mrsjay Sat 03-Nov-12 13:14:09

I am a Granny at 38!

they won't think that why would they think that ?

TheReturnOfBridezilla Sat 03-Nov-12 13:14:33

My mother was a grandmother at 45, she had me at 21 and I had dc at 24. Not a million miles away and we are all perfectly respectable I assure you. grin

WorraLiberty Sat 03-Nov-12 13:16:03

What's wrong with being a Grandmother of any age?

Is it because some people still associate the word 'Granny' with the old woman in the Tweetie Pie cartoons?

I'm sure we're long past that, considering some women are having their first babies at the age of 38 or 40.

SecretCermonials Sat 03-Nov-12 13:16:18

So your issue is about your age not their age.. Maybe you should have said "AIBU to worry about being sen as a granny at 38" least then you'd seem vain rather than judgemental of people who choose to have children younger!

SoleSource Sat 03-Nov-12 13:16:53

I am glad I asked as I was wondering whether I was being unreasonable.

Mrsjay Sat 03-Nov-12 13:17:29

My mum is now 60 and loves her grand daughter giving her lifts in the car she brags about it , that her DGD took her shopping grin my mum is far from the old grandma

WorraLiberty Sat 03-Nov-12 13:17:44

A 38 inch granny? grin

Yeah that's pretty unusual Secret

cheekydevil Sat 03-Nov-12 13:17:49

My dsis was teaching at a school where some of her class were on their second pregnancy. I think its really sad but was quite the norm in that particular area and the girls would boast about how many points they could rack up on the council?

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