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To expect my DH to say good morning and ask me how I slept, rather than...

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civilfawlty Sat 03-Nov-12 09:08:59

"can you pass me my phone?" he then read the restaurant review. I understand. He really loves the reviews. It's a real ritual. But - surely greeting your dw comes first, no?

I dealt with not reading twitter during supper a couple of years ago. But I just can't find the energy for this new ruck. It REALLY f***s me off. AIBU?

Sirzy Sat 03-Nov-12 09:11:13

I would make a sarcastic "morning civil, how are you? Did you sleep well?" type response before telling him to get his own fucking phone.

Or switch of the internet on his phone before he wakes up

mutny Sat 03-Nov-12 09:12:22

Oh my god are you me?

Tbh though both me and dh check trip advisor first thing. We are number one in out area and it brings in a massive amount of business.

As an aside do people really wake up and say 'morning darling, did you sleep well?'.
I don't want to speak to anyone until I have had a coffee.

mayorquimby Sat 03-Nov-12 09:16:00

you sound rather precious.

expatinscotland Sat 03-Nov-12 09:17:29

Ask how you slept?

Do people actually do this?


bundle Sat 03-Nov-12 09:18:46

Dh always asks me how I slept and I do too

Polite innit?

InABloodyRut Sat 03-Nov-12 09:18:54

YABU, dp gets nothing but a grunt from myself until I've had coffee.

civilfawlty Sat 03-Nov-12 09:19:01

Ok. Ignore "how did you sleep". Is unreasonable to want the person who is meant to love and care about me to say ANYTHING before saying "can you pass my phone" ?

myphonesexdrama Sat 03-Nov-12 09:19:11

Leave a review every night for him to read.

PopMusicShoobyDoobyDoA Sat 03-Nov-12 09:23:41


I got up with DS at six this morning. First thing I said to DP is "it's quarter to nine get up, you lazy sod." And walked out the room but heard him say thank you smile. I only said good morning when he came downstairs and offered me tea.

mutny Sat 03-Nov-12 09:25:06

Ok. Ignore "how did you sleep". Is unreasonable to want the person who is meant to love and care about me to say ANYTHING before saying "can you pass my phone"

Yabu. Have you been married long? Its just waking up. Its not like you haven't seen him in a month. You saw him 8 (ish) hours ago and have been laid next to him all night.

PopMusicShoobyDoobyDoA Sat 03-Nov-12 09:25:50

We do normally say morning and did you sleep well, btw so I don't think yabu.

Lottapianos Sat 03-Nov-12 09:27:40

My DP asks me how I slept every morning and I get a kiss and cuddle too. YANBU OP, that would bug me too.

Binkyridesagain Sat 03-Nov-12 09:28:36

DH doesn't need to ask me how I slept, he judges on the grunt I give him when he asks if I would like a brew.

MadamFolly Sat 03-Nov-12 09:34:37

It has never occurred to me to say good morning to the person I have just woken up next to unless I have no idea who they are.

YABU and precious.

roundtable Sat 03-Nov-12 09:35:58

Me and dh always ask each other how the other slept unless we've had a conversation about it in the middle of the night!

Is that not normal? blush

Yanbu if it's everyday op, it's just a nice thing to do. Or am I just old fashioned?

GockandJuice Sat 03-Nov-12 09:47:02

I'd be a bit hmm to. It won't kill anyone to say good morning, the phone will still be there in the second after you say it. Me and my OH see each other and first thing we usually say is something like "i love you" or I ask how he slept or vice versa...

waitandsee Sat 03-Nov-12 09:54:48

Hmm, I would be a bit annoyed, but my OH is not great in the mornings either, he is more of an owl, which is a bugger as I am a bit of a lark. Whilst we are on the subject of mornings, does anyone have a "film-like" Saturday morning - you know, DH leaves DW sleeping in bed whilst he goes and rustles up some croissants/french toast/eggs benedict and fresh coffee, all whilst keeping the DCs amused? I have been waiting nearly 10 years for my OH to surprise me with this....still hasn't happened....

maras2 Sat 03-Nov-12 09:58:11

We've been married for 37 years and my DH allways says 'morning,sleep ok?'then kisses me.If he ever needs to use the internet,he gets up and goes in another room.Our bedroom is for sleeping and shagging especially as the kids have all left home ( apparently ).

TidyDancer Sat 03-Nov-12 10:11:09

I'm afraid I do not see the big deal with this.

I think YABU.

Trills Sat 03-Nov-12 10:28:47

He should keep his phone on his side of the bed.

Proudnscary Sat 03-Nov-12 10:35:21

YABU. I would think my husband had gone completely round the bend if he woke up with a 'Hello darling, how did you sleep?' because we don't live in a Doris Day film.

ceeveebee Sat 03-Nov-12 10:36:00

I don't think I have ever asked DH how he's slept and vice versa. Usually the first words out of my mouth are 'will you switch that fecking alarm off'!

Whoknowswhocares Sat 03-Nov-12 10:37:56

If this is your big problem in life, then by very, very thankful.


tassisssss Sat 03-Nov-12 10:40:37

I don't get the asking how you slept thing.

My lovely dh asks me all the time and i always grunt and want to say something sarcastic like "with my eyes shut".

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