This is long and complicated but I will try to be as to the point as I can be. My brother (I refuse to call him my 'D'B right now as I think he is a cock) has been staying with us for a few days and last night had a few too many. We were chatting and I asked him exactly why he broke up with his ex girlfriend last year as she was so lovely. I didn't know her that well (she lives about an hour away) but she was such a nice woman and I hoped they would stay together as they seemed to really like each other.
He told me that the reason that they broke up is because she fell pregnant and he 'didn't feel ready to be a dad' (he's 42). So he left her. She was pregnant and he left her. She had a little boy in March this year who he has not seen nor has any desire to see. He sends her money every month (which she initially sent back but now, thankfully, accepts) and that's as far as his input goes. I am so fucking angry I want to kick his arse so hard but my main concern right now is what I can do for this woman and her son (my nephew for god's sake and I didn't even know he existed ). I did try to contact her when they split up but she didn't return my calls so I thought she perhaps just felt it inappropriate or something so didn't push it.
What do I do? I really, really want to get in touch to offer my support (she doesn't have any family around her) and to let her know that I would love to be involved in her and her little boys life. What if she thinks we are all like my cocklodger of a brother? I don't want to force myself on her of course, but I do want to let her know that I want to help her.
Incidentally, my brother has gone home now I can barely stand to look at him right now, never mind talk to him. Any advice would be really gratefully received, I have to go out now but will check in later to see if anyone can give me a clue on how I handle this. Thanks.
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Megatron · 01/11/2012 17:26
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