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Who is BU regarding DP's cousin trying it on with me?

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SneakyNuts Thu 01-Nov-12 15:31:24

DP's cousin recently revealed his <ahem> feelings for me.

His cousin only ever really see's me/us at parties or in a pub/club so now DP sneers and makes snide remarks when I get dressed up for said occasions, meeting girlfriends etc just in case cousin sees me and tries it on.

DP thinks it is my fault somehow for "letting it happen" hmm but I have told him I put him (his cousin) firmly in his place.
He thinks I should tone it down and perhaps cousin wouldn't feel this way about me if I didn't wear nice clothes/heels/much make- up or style my hair.

I feel I should be able to dress up and go out without being made to feel bad about potential sleazes.

So who is BU?

MrsDeVere Thu 01-Nov-12 15:32:13

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

motherinferior Thu 01-Nov-12 15:32:43

Frankly, from your post, I reckon you'd be better off with the cousin.

LadyEvilBeagle Thu 01-Nov-12 15:33:58

You really have to ask?
Your dp's cousin needs a kick in the balls, as does your dp.
You are blameless.

missymoomoomee Thu 01-Nov-12 15:34:24


ChaoticismyLife Thu 01-Nov-12 15:35:02

Your DP is a twat. In fact it sounds as if he's the type who would blame a woman who was raped if she wore a short skirt.


LoopyLoopsOlympicHoops Thu 01-Nov-12 15:35:29

I agree with motherinferior

TinyDancingHoofer Thu 01-Nov-12 15:35:53

Did cousin actually try it on or just say he liked you?

VinegarTits Thu 01-Nov-12 15:36:15

why are you with this tosser, he sounds as bad as his cousin

scentednappyhag Thu 01-Nov-12 15:36:19

... You brought it on yourself by looking nice?

SirBoobAlot Thu 01-Nov-12 15:37:12

The cousin was unreasonable but...

Your arsehole partner is a total sexist twat. If it hadn't have been his cousin, it had been a stranger, and if this stranger had done more than just hit on you, would he have blamed you for "provoking" them too?

He's a dick. Leave the bastard.

WorraLiberty Thu 01-Nov-12 15:37:34

Some real no brainer AIBUs today.

PoppadomPreach Thu 01-Nov-12 15:38:09

Could you suggest that your DH spruces himself up a bit otherwise you might just take up his cousin's offer?

SneakyNuts Thu 01-Nov-12 15:40:17

His reaction surprised me to say the least, he's so laid back usually.
For him to blame BOTH of us surprised me even more.

Tiny saw him in a club, he said he wanted to get me a drink. I said no so he tried dragging me away instead. One of DP's friends intervened (DP wasn't there, but same circle of friends)

MrsDeVere Thu 01-Nov-12 15:41:44

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SneakyNuts Thu 01-Nov-12 15:42:08

I figured for him to react that badly, I might have done something wrong- that's why I thought I'd ask

SneakyNuts Thu 01-Nov-12 15:42:37

No, I don't think so MrsDeVere

Jsa1980 Thu 01-Nov-12 15:49:07

They both sound like a couple of Cupid Stunts. Does it run in the family?

He's way off the mark with this.

DixieD Thu 01-Nov-12 15:56:43

He tried to drag you away? WTF? And your dickhead P thinks you provoked this? Wow they sound like a charming family hmm

pinkyredrose Thu 01-Nov-12 15:56:56

Your partner is way out if order. 'Brought it in yourself'! Words fail me.

He really sounds like he is the kind if person who would blame a rape victim for 'getting herself' raped.

Why are you with this tosser? How long have you been together?

pinkyredrose Thu 01-Nov-12 15:58:03

On yourself not in!

SneakyNuts Thu 01-Nov-12 16:01:17

It does seem to run in the family yes, on that side anyway.

His reaction was very out of character I must admit, like there was no reasoning with him. He's a good man, but like JSA said, he's way off the mark with this.

SneakyNuts Thu 01-Nov-12 16:17:31

I figured I should tell him before his mate got there first but now I wished I'd left him to it angry

OneMoreChap Thu 01-Nov-12 16:23:25

Time to sack the DP, I feel.

SneakyNuts Thu 01-Nov-12 17:36:35


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