Ds3 is 16 months old.
Exp was round yesterday and mentioned that his parents had been talking about taking ds3 away on holiday but didn't think I would let them.
Ds3 has never stayed away over night, he still sleeps in bed with me and is an awful sleeper. But, he will need to stay with his grandparents over night when I am in hospital having ds4, so I was thinking that even though I would hate it and miss him, that as soon as I'd got him to settle in a bed of his own then he should start having the occassional sleepover to get him used to it. He would probably really enjoy it.
So I said to exp that once he was used to staying over, then I was sure he would love a couple of nights away by the sea. I was thinking next summer, a long weekend in Wales/Devon/Uk when he was 2 and old enough to understand that he would be coming home. Plus, by then I would be grateful of the break as I would have a 6 month old baby too.
But, nope. They are thinking 10 nights in Spain or Greece. Which made me just give an immediate No. Exp says its nearer in travelling time that a lot of the UK only 2/3 hours by plane. Grandparents were thinking of sometime in the next few months, and offered to pay for exp to go too if that would make me feel more confortable. But it's still a No from me as abroad is just to far away, for to long.
I know I am precious with ds3, he's my baby and ad I've been on my own with him for half his life im very close to him. I'm the only person who has every put him to bed, got up in the night with him, etc. I'm sure ds3 would have a great time, it's more about me being uncomfortable with him being away.
There is no one I trust more to look after him that exes parents. They treat him like he is the most important person in the world, they adore him and him them. They are the only people who have ever looked after him for me, so it's not because they are my exes family that I'm not allowing him to go, they can't stand me but are civil and polite as the value their relationship with ds above everything else. I wouldn't let him go with my patents either.
I don't think I'm being unreasonable, but would you let your toddler go away on holiday?
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DinosaursOnASpaceship · 31/10/2012 09:04
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