I have had enough tbh. I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers. Sisters are 26 and 15, brothers are 22 and 21.
Last week was my birthday. One brother was away with the army so he can be forgiven (although he came back days after my birthday so not completely forgiven) but I got not a single acknowledgement from the other brother, 26 year old sister managed a Happy Birthday on facebook. I don't count facebook messages as a proper birthday message from a sibling, distant family and distant friends yes but not closer people. 15 year old sister got me a card with some money in (first time ever and I know my dad had something to do with this but at least she made some effort so it was greatly appreciated).
Its the same story every year. Sometimes I get a card from some of them, others not one of them will bother. I always send cards and my brothers up until this year have always had money. I have now told them that I have stopped at 21 (because I never get anything from them so I am fed up). I still have my 15 year old sister to buy for and I will stop at 21 for her too.
My 26 year old sister buys for my kids, although they never ever get their presents remotely on time. Brothers can be hit and miss with my kids as well, both for their birthdays and Christmas.
I am bloody fed up of them. I make an effort to at least ensure they get a card and up until this year, presents but I get fuck all consideration back. Would I be unreasonable to only buy a Christmas present for my 15 year old sister? 22 year old brother has just moved 300 miles away so we probably won't even see him at all. I may see the other brother. I have no idea if either of them will get the kids anything (brother 300 miles away probably won't, local brother might), I know they won't get me anything. 26 year old sister has got my kids presents but they won't be getting them until after new year as she is going away (it will probably be their birthdays in February before they get their Christmas presents), she sometimes buys me and DH some chocolates.
I just feel like they clearly don't give a shit about me. I am the oldest and have always made a huge effort with them but I get no consideration so I just can't be bothered. Would it be bad to just get the 15 year old even though my children may or may not get some presents from some of them? (None of them have any children).
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CrapBag · 30/10/2012 22:03
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