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to think telling me the worst scenarios about my condition is out of order!!!!

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Littlemisspoorly Tue 30-Oct-12 21:08:19

In short, recently been diagnosed with typeII diabetes and all I'm hearing is:

"Uncle George lost his leg through that!"
"Margret!...Margret!...was it Eileen who had her toes taken off wi' that?!"
"Don't worry, some people with that can live quite a long time"
"Are you sure you should be eating that?!"
"Don't wear tight shoes"

I'm just getting my head round the news and although I'm aware it's a chronic condition these tend to be of the older generation and treat me like I'm 5 years old. Grrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 30-Oct-12 21:09:13

YABU - they're just trying to be helpful and emphasis that looking after yourself is important.

WelshMaenad Tue 30-Oct-12 21:11:38

YANBU, I'm type II and you just don't want to hear it all the time, do you?

Have you been directed towards some proper support? Ask if you have a local diabetes peer support group, great source of info and help.

What's your management plan and how are your sugars?

Mathsdidi Tue 30-Oct-12 21:12:19

If it's any help at all my mum has had type 2 diabetes since I was born (it's my fault apparently hmm) and she's absolutely fine because she looks after herself. She's had it 33 years and has only had to move to insulin in the past couple of years, previously she has controlled it with diet and/or medication.

I do agree that these people are trying to be helpful, but they may not really know what is helpful to you to hear.

FryOneGhoulishGhostlyManic Tue 30-Oct-12 21:20:34

Mathsdidi In addition, many people don't really know much about it, only the more dramatic stuff when it happens. People don't see/know about those people who are quietly managing it on a daily basis without problems.

highlandcoo Tue 30-Oct-12 21:24:29

YANBU. How can these doom-mongers think that what they're saying can possibly be helpful? Can they not express their concern for your well-being in a more positive way?

My friend's DH has had it for fifteen years; he developed it in his thirties. He manages it carefully and looks and feels extremely well

Littlemisspoorly Tue 30-Oct-12 21:25:59

I've not been to see the support nurse yet so don't know the scores on the doors. I am planning on joining the local D group. I know it's a chronic condition so why do people think I need the scare stories?

I think this is going to P me off more than the condition.

Cezzy Tue 30-Oct-12 21:29:53

I was diagnosed earlier this year and I am still having a job getting my head around it some days. Yanbu, you need to be allowed to come to terms with it in your own time, your nurse will no doubt go through everything you need to know to manage it and although these people no doubt have good intentions, I think because its quite a common illness they don't realise how their comments can affect you especially on a low day. Good luck,

WelshMaenad Tue 30-Oct-12 21:32:58

Wait till you start getting "input" from twats who like to inform you that all type II diabetics are fat, lazy, willpowerless sinkholes for NHS funds!

Best of luck!

Littlemisspoorly Tue 30-Oct-12 21:36:08

Thanks Cezzy. I hope you get your head round it soon. Are you joining a local support group? That's my intention...if I have time.

UserError Tue 30-Oct-12 21:38:40

YANBU. I had to have radiotherapy this year and my dad insisted on telling me all about a colleague of his who had it and was horribly burnt. This was before I had treatment and I was trapped in the car with him at the time as he was giving me a lift. I screamed at him to shut up in the end and he just wouldn't.

Some people are insensitive, stubborn idiots when it comes to giving illness advice.

Littlemisspoorly Tue 30-Oct-12 21:39:51

SURELY YOU ARE JOKING!?! WelshMaenad. I have it in the family and none of us are morbidly obese and all of us are hard working tax payers.

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