My 6yo daughter has a name that has a shortening that I personally don't like, it was one of the weighing factors to giving her this name but we decided if we stuck to calling her by her name until she was old enough to decide for herself what she would be called the others would and that has worked. My daughter also hates this shortening! Not because we've said anything to her, she just loves her full name (the whole thing, middle names and surname too). Her dad recently realised she hates it and will call it her if he's trying to play her up, which works, she'll start trying to beat him up.
At school there are two teachers who call it her and when they do she breathes in deeply through her nose whilst pushing her lips out. I've asked her why she doesn't say anything about it but she won't, it's not in her nature. I was talking to a senior member of staff recently and mentioned it, she said she'd noticed she hated it too and would make sure people know not to call it her.
About a week later she comes home from school and says "[TA] said she has to call me... because my name is so long and she has lots of children" her name is 6 letters long and "shortening" it makes it 5 letters and not much quicker to say. I'm not sure if this is in response to the senior teacher saying something or she's stood up for herself, but either way if someone doesn't like being called a name, isn't it rude to tell them their name is too long and they have other people's names to think about?
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to think this TA was rude?
confuddledDOTcom · 28/10/2012 01:51
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YANBU
It was very rude of her to do that. If your daughter has expressed a wish to be called by her given name, then the TA should respect that and do so.
I wonder how the TA would feel if people shortened her title? It's really not much wonder some children struggle with the concept of respect if this is the kind of "respect" they are shown by those in authority 
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No.. was the original post the one by confuddledotcom? Why does the first reply come top of he thread then? 
I had a teacher when I was 9/10 years old that insisted on calling me by a nickname of my name that I did not like. I tried to tell her a number of times, then finally gave up. I just stopped answering whenever she called me by the nickname - just didn't respond. Within 24 hours, she'd called my mum in for a "chat" about my behaviour.
When my mum met with the teacher, the teacher referred to me by her "nickname" she was using and told my mum I was ignoring her in class and being rude. My mum just calmly said "Perhaps you could try actually calling her by her right name then. I imagine that will solve the problem." 
My mum still laughs about that. Teacher didn't really know what to say.
Problem solved. 
I don't know if I'd have had the bottle to do it when I was six though.
I'm glad this isn't just me! She's in Y2 now and still has a reception teacher who calls it her when she sees her around so she's been putting up with it for 2 years now. I hadn't realised her reaction to it until recently when I dropped her in after a hospital appointment and met Y3 going swimming with her old teacher and then saw her do the same thing with the TA later.
Her name has 6 letters and 3 syllables, it's shortened to 4 or 5 (depending on spelling) and 2 syllables, so hardly saving her a massive amount of time or breath!
I've tried coming up with some answers for her that will tell people but she's an amazing diplomat who hasn't learnt that it doesn't mean she has to not speak up for herself. This nickname sounds like a question (that might tell you what it is) so I've taught her ways to answer the question which she loves and will get family members to do but she won't tell other people. She's also a stickler for rules, like she doesn't stand up for herself when people pull her hair in assembly or quiet time because you don't talk then, so I can't imagine her ignoring a teacher. I'd love to do that with her and would totally back her up on it. Reminds me of when my mum got called into the office because I was making fun of Brummies (I'd already been in the office, BTW) and after this lecture from the HOY she turned to her and said "So where is she from anyway?" Mum said "Um... here. She IS a Brummie!" I've just spent time with relatives in Surrey and Toronto growing up and my accent mellowed but sometimes, especially at school when I was around the accent all the time my natural accent would poke out.
redlac, I was thinking more about shortening the assistant bit 
not sure if it's what thumper was thinking too.
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