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At the this of starting another argument

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Mosman Fri 26-Oct-12 15:14:03

Would that start to a conversation get your heckles up ?

SugariceAndScary Fri 26-Oct-12 15:14:59

is that supposed to say risk?

Trills Fri 26-Oct-12 15:15:14

If someone started a conversation with "at the this of starting another argument" my confusion would be up rather than my hackles.

ZombTEE Fri 26-Oct-12 15:15:25

Assuming this = risk, then yes.

Otherwise I have no idea what that sentence even means.


Mosman Fri 26-Oct-12 15:15:33

This should read risk predictive text grrrr

ClippedPhoenix Fri 26-Oct-12 15:16:36

Don't know really to be honest, depends what the other argument was about?

Trills Fri 26-Oct-12 15:17:07

If someone starts a conversation with that, then they are about to bring up a controversial subject, or a subject that has caused arguments in the past.

So yes, my hackles would be up.

BUT no more than they would be if the same conversation was had without that at the beginning.

Because the conversation is about something that will "get my hackles up" anyway.

Mosman Fri 26-Oct-12 15:17:51

Something incrediably minor that's been blown out of all proportion grrrr

SugariceAndScary Fri 26-Oct-12 15:22:18

Is this MiL?

Mosman Fri 26-Oct-12 15:28:57

Apparently I'm over reacting, she is sulking and has booked her flight home for a week today -- but clearly plans to make my life hell for the next seven days--
DH says I am over reacting and need to grin and bear it because I have got what I want in that she's going home. I'm so angry that she is causing these rows between us.

KenLeeeeeee Fri 26-Oct-12 15:31:44

Ahh, a thinly veiled MIL thread. Gotta love those.

OnTheBottomWithAWomansWeekly Fri 26-Oct-12 15:34:01

Can you schedule lots of nice activities for those 7 days - for yourself?

Detach, detach detach and look forward to your nice pedicure, meeting a friend for coffee, etc. Then wave MiL off with a big smile... (will drive her nuts)

Mosman Fri 26-Oct-12 15:35:59

You're right I know. Why can't she do the bloody same though. The silly cow probably won't see us again.

mynewpassion Fri 26-Oct-12 16:15:49

Isn't that what you want? To not see her again?

Kalisi Fri 26-Oct-12 16:19:02

It's up there with 'No offence/ I'm not being funny but' As if that's an excuse to then be a twat!

Mosman Sat 27-Oct-12 00:11:25


BeingBooyhoo Sat 27-Oct-12 00:15:50

i dont get it. who said "at the risk..." you or MIL?

it would depend on who it was coming from whether it would get my hackles up. if it was my mum then 100% yes. if it was my best friend, i'd be worried as she is the least confrontational person ever and would never say it.

actually that's helped me answer the question. yes it would get my hackles up as the only people that say it are people that are up for a row.

Mosman Sat 27-Oct-12 00:22:32

My thoughts too, it was MIL who said it. One more incident and she's been sent to a hotel for the remaining 6 days.
You'd think she could be civil at least

AgentZigzag Sat 27-Oct-12 00:23:52

I'm not very good a grinning and bearing people who try to pick fights with me in my own home.

Why can't she bloody grin and bear it?

Will your DH be saying the same to her?

No? Really??

Mosman Sat 27-Oct-12 03:54:41

DH has gone for a word with her, hopefully she will take on board that she has played a part in her decision to head home early but I doubt it and I'll be that bitch that sent her packing to anyone that'll listen.

tryingtoleave Sat 27-Oct-12 05:26:32

Op, your mil didn't want to visit and you guilt tripped her into it.

Then you decided you didn't want her and planned to make her so uncomfortable she would leave and not come back (ie, making her sleep on the floor in a shared room).

You should be feeling pleased with the result now - although I suppose you will have to look for some other area of your life to create drama and angst in now.

tryingtoleave Sat 27-Oct-12 05:30:17

I feel very sorry for your mil. You were never going to let this end well.

Mosman Sat 27-Oct-12 05:45:08

She waited and came 6 weeks after us so that we were fully prepared in terms of beds, bedding and all her home comforts. I have gritted my teeth through her whining and whining and embarrassing me in front of people we would like to be friends with.
On Wednesday she announced she was going to go home early because she is convinced the plane will crash over the Christmas period, all fine but now she has decided that she'd much prefer to leave under a cloud by kicking off at every opportunity.
If you feel that sorry for her I'll pm you her address, you're opinion would change in a couple of hours.

tryingtoleave Sat 27-Oct-12 05:54:07

November is the Xmas period?

tryingtoleave Sat 27-Oct-12 05:56:11

Anyway, you asked her to come. You had a thread about how she was a bad grandmother because she didn't want to come.

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