Long story: was very capable academically at school but I chose to have fun with my friends rather than knuckle down and work hard. Result was, unsurprisingly, I didn't get the greatest set of gcse results although did get 5 A-C grades.
Left school, gave college a go (A levels) but ended up getting kicked out of home due to my appalling behaviour. College fell by the wayside and I left there after a term too. Eventually sorted myself out, moved back home, got a job and realised I needed to sort my life out. Applied to a different college for the following September but fell pregnant in the May. Decided to keep my baby against everyone's wishes (inc the father's) and didn't go to college. Instead I took one a level when DS was 2yrs old.
Met my now DH, we had another child together, I worked various jobs when the children were small but mostly shop work. By the time they were both at school I managed to get a job as a teaching assistant. I loved this job, learnt sign language etc but then we decided to have another baby. Followed by another. I now haven't worked in 5yrs, youngest dc is 2yrs old.
I know I'll have to get a job once he starts school but what? I've always wanted to be a midwife but realistically this won't happen. DH works very long hours in his own business and that will always take priority over any work that I do (for one I could never match his earning potential), childcare will always come down to me in school holidays and if ill and I'll still end up doing all the cooking/cleaning/general house running.
DH made a comment the other evening about how I've wasted my life - he claims he didn't mean it nastily and that I'm still young enough to do something about it (35) but it cut me quite deep. I feel that despite the children having been a joint decision to have, I'm left to sacrifice everything in order to have them. I told him that I'd never have the freedom to work without the worry of what goes on at home, unlike he does.
Oh I don't know, this is a bit long but I don't know what to do with myself really :(
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OhThisIsJustGrape · 26/10/2012 10:44
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