I'm getting married next year and my brother is getting married the month after us. The other day, someone asked FSIL if she had found bridesmaid dresses yet and what colour she was having. She replied green. I was also planning to have green, so I mentioned it then to make sure she knew I wasn't copying etc as I know some people are particular about these things.
Today I get a text message from my brother telling me they are having sage and asking what shade I was having. I replied that we were also having sage because it would be a good colour to match our flowers (colourful country-style), but that I didn't mind having the same colour as them, and asked if they minded. He replied that they didn't really want to have the same colour as the weddings are close together, and that FSIL has planned the wedding around sage. I replied that sage isn't really a colour scheme for us, that the flowers are the main event so the weddings wouldn't look that similar really, but that I would look at slightly darker shades of green.
It's not that I care about the colour that much (it's what I prefer, but doesn't matter as much to me as it obviously does to them). I'm pissed off because they are the ones who are bothered about having the same colours but I'm the one who's expected to change to something else?!
I cannot understand why a colour scheme is more important to someone than having a good relationship with their sister (ie. me).
AIBU to stick to green or should I change to accommodate them?
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Should I be more accommodating?
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ernieandbert · 25/10/2012 23:59
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