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Thistledew Thu 25-Oct-12 22:34:59

I posted a rant on Facebook (yes, I know) in relation to an Equal Opportunities form I had to complete, which if you did not want to state that you were either a member of a specified or "other" religion, left you with the option of ticking a box labled "no religion or belief". My rant was to the effect that almost everyone, regardless of whether or not they are religious, has some sort of belief as to why we are here, what it is all for, and what happens after.

A very religious member of my family posted in reply to my comment "wot's your world view then?". I decided to offer her the courtesy of a reply, and spent a bit of time setting out a bit of what I do believe.

Since then, nothing. No response or acknowlegement of my answer. I know she has seen my message as it is marked on my messenger app as read.

AIBU to have expected that she would make some sort of reply, even if it was just "thanks for taking the time to answer"? Especially as she is always keen to push her own religious views onto other people?

mrscumberbatch Thu 25-Oct-12 23:12:34

YABU. It's facebook!

ilovesooty Thu 25-Oct-12 23:14:39

Why would anyone be bothered about not getting a response to a Facebook post?

pictish Thu 25-Oct-12 23:15:22

What she said.

It's fb - don't worry about it.

MrsTerryPratchett Thu 25-Oct-12 23:16:51

Blimey. No wonder people think us irreligious types are humourless, joyless, ranty bores.

WorraLiberty Thu 25-Oct-12 23:16:52

Maybe she read it and it made her angry or something?

Therefore she might have thought that if she can't say something nice, she won't say anything at all.

Thistledew Thu 25-Oct-12 23:19:07

Sooty- it was the lack of acknowledgement of my PM to her that irks me, not a lack of response to something in my wall.

I suppose in future I would not be unreasonable to ignore every post she puts on my wall then? Even ones asking a direct question. I did consider this in the first place but thought it rude not to reply?

pictish Thu 25-Oct-12 23:20:30

Ah yes...the PM. The modern day equivalent of sending a telegraph by horse.

Thistledew Thu 25-Oct-12 23:31:21

Would I be unreasonable just to ignore her posts in the future? She seemed to be asking me a serious question. She is always so keen for people to hear her religious views at every opportunity that I thought she might be serious about wanting to hear mine.

Kalisi Thu 25-Oct-12 23:34:52

Maybe she read it quickly and is waiting until she has time to write a response. Seems like quite an indepth conversation to have over Facebook maybe she just can't be bothered to reply straight away...or what Worra said.

Thistledew Thu 25-Oct-12 23:39:39

It was about a week ago that I sent the message. She has been on fb many times since and has found time to comment on other stuff I posted.

Surely if you didn't want to get into a debate a quick "that was interesting, thanks for replying" would be better than ignoring it.

As for her finding it offensive, given that she on a post today implied that I will be going to hell, I don't think she is too bothered about offensiveness! grin

pictish Thu 25-Oct-12 23:44:16

She's obviously not a rl friend of yours, so shrug it off and give no more thought to it.
Never reply to another post of hers again if it makes you feel better. It doesn't matter.

Boomerwang Thu 25-Oct-12 23:44:42

Christ on a bike... nobody owes you the time of day let alone a long winded post on a subject which you are guaranteed to disagree with.

Thistledew Thu 25-Oct-12 23:48:18

She's not a RL friend, but is a RL family member. There is a history of her being fairly rude, and I was wondering if I was overreacting in feeling this was another example. Happy to accept it is perfectly normal if that is the consensus, and that I would not be being rude to ignore her in turn.

Thistledew Thu 25-Oct-12 23:50:49

Not sure if I was clear in my OP. She was the one asking me what my views are, then failing to respond when I answered.

pictish Thu 25-Oct-12 23:52:09

I don't think she expected you to write a long reply in a private message.
I think she was being flippant.

Aspiemum2 Thu 25-Oct-12 23:55:02

I think it may be a bit petty to ignore her in future on the basis of this one incident.

Bloody Facebook, honestly why do people bother?? Causes nothing but grief from what I can see

pictish Thu 25-Oct-12 23:58:38

I don't get grief. I like it. I have none of this going on. I take it for what it is...a frippery.

CelineMcBean Fri 26-Oct-12 00:10:27

You sound a leetle bit unhinged.

SoleSource Fri 26-Oct-12 00:15:02

My belief as to why we are here is that we haven't discovered tbe reasons yet.

Thistledew Fri 26-Oct-12 00:27:16

Celine - are you my relative? wink
Sole - that was kind of my point. Even if someone believes that we simply don't know the answers yet, they still believe something. They don't have a complete absence of belief.

LucieMay Fri 26-Oct-12 00:35:15

You sound like me when a man I'm dating doesn't text me back!

LRDtheFeministDragon Fri 26-Oct-12 00:41:39

Maybe she just thought you'd answered her question, so nothing more to say.

Boomerwang Fri 26-Oct-12 00:43:11

I have a complete absence of belief. I don't give it much thought at all.

Bobyan Fri 26-Oct-12 07:47:08

grin Celine

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