13 year old son - getting up in the morning

[Ilovewaleswhenitrains]

My son is 13 (as mentioned!) he is a lovely boy, but it is a nightmare to get him to get ready and go to bed, and as a result he ignores his alarm in the morning.
He is supposed to start getting ready at 9 pm, to actually go to bed at 10. He had always been a pain to get him to bed since he was a baby.

One result of him avoiding using the bathroom is that it delays me getting to bed, resulting in me being grouchy in the morning.

In the morning he ignores his alarm and relies on me waking him up. I am now considering telling him that he is responsible for getting up ( have done this lots of times), and leaving him in bed until he gets himself up. If he dosen't get up on time he will be late for school, get a late report, detention if it carries on.


AMBU to be thinking of doing this? He will be 14 in December, and I can only see the situation getting worse unless I do something drastic!

Advice please.

[BackforGood]

I tried it with my ds last year, when he was in Yr11.
He just took the detentions

[Fishwife1949]

What time is he going to bed ?



Perosnally i would speak o the school let them know and make sure a awful punishment is awiting him when he arrives at his lesuire

Hes got to face the choices he makes

[valiumredhead]

Let him take the detention.

Or ban xbox or telly or whatever is dear to him until he sorts himself out.

[ClippedPhoenix]

I see it as my job to be honest to get my kid off to school in the mornings (he's nearly15). Weekends etc. no, but school, yes.

I go in and open the curtains whilst singing to the radio If that doesn't work tampering with the duvet is next on my list.

[Fishwife1949]

What abou docking his pocket money for every 15 minutes hes late or making him go to bed early the excat amount of time hes late


So if hes an hour late he gose to be a hour early bet he wont like that

Also take tv ,lap tops out of bed room and tell hime when hes better and time keeping he can have it back he maybe staying up to wtach the box

[Fishwife1949]

I often squirt ds with a spray bottle of water i brough speical for lazy days

[Shagmundfreud]

I feel your pain.

I have a 13 year old daughter who is a monster in the morning.

I recommend running in, taking the duvet and running out with it. Open the window as you go.

The element of surprise is very important.

This could be very effective with a teenage boy as they will no doubt be lying in bed with their hands in their pyjama bottoms and not able to grab said duvet and hold on.

[ClippedPhoenix]

Excellent Shagmund I'm getting a few more tips here

[GhostShip]

Christ honestly I forget how old headed I must have been at 13 coz I used to get myself up and my brothers, make our butties and out the door I went!