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to not take dd (14mths) to a group today?

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SunshineOutdoors Thu 25-Oct-12 09:45:22

It's mums and babies doing actions and stuff to music, quite enjoyable but starts early at 10. I only really go so that dd has time with a group of babies, as she doesn't go to nursery. But she went down for a nap just after 9 and I's have to wake her to go to the group.

I've got to do a bit of shopping around lunchtime but then I should be able to meet up with a friend who has a baby similar age to mine, so she will be getting 'baby time' just not with a group.

I've just sat down with a cup of tea and can't decide if I'm being lazy or not by giving it a miss. We will be doing 'rhyme time' at the library tomorrow am.

AIBU to let her sleep lomger and have a lazy morning?
or AIBU to let her miss out on going to the baby groups?

Obviously a very important problem that I'm thinking far too much about smile

I'm quite interested to hear mn views on baby groups and their importance to someone so young.

Mimstar Thu 25-Oct-12 09:48:01

Just let her sleep. You take her regularly, not taking her once won't hurt and she won't even realise she is 'missing' something, if you know what I mean.

I don't think socialising them is essential at this point, it's very nice that you do it, I'm sure she loves it. But don't give yourself a hard time about missing one, the sleep will be more beneficial to her if that's what she needs. smile

cheekypickle Thu 25-Oct-12 09:49:04

I'm totally with you. Some weeks I live to go to groups with DD 14montha then other weeks I really can't be bothered. We use I go to a music group but decided not to go any more. I work mon, tues, weds then we have a chilled day Thursday and then a mad day with mini monkey gym and water babies.

I would wake DD to go to a group x

cheekypickle Thu 25-Oct-12 09:49:35

I live to go??

I love to go

cheekypickle Thu 25-Oct-12 09:50:14

This bloody phone ! I wouldn't wake her!

PrincessScrumpy Thu 25-Oct-12 09:52:05

I have 14mo twins - sleep is far more important for baby development than playing and babies don't really interact (other than playing next to each other). Baby groups at this stage are far more about the mum meeting other adults. Go for the easy life and don't stress about these little things.

Softlysoftly Thu 25-Oct-12 09:52:38

With DD1 I would have woken her.

With DD2 not a chance am too old and knackered.

SunshineOutdoors Thu 25-Oct-12 09:53:23

Ah phew! i'm blatantly not going now as I'm waiting to see responses to this and enjoying my cuppa. But I got a pang of guilt when I read that cheekypickle. I'm glad you actually meant the opposite!

dysfunctionalme Thu 25-Oct-12 09:55:08

Are you serious? Of course it's fine. She will love to hang out with you.

LolaDontCryOverSpiltBleach Thu 25-Oct-12 09:55:53

Just leave her and meet with your friend later, i take DS 22mths somewhere everyday, i think that if i go to the park for an hour or a group and walk the dog, as long as it's something then he is happy.

And of course is less likely to bounce from the walls at any given time and use the dog as a pony through boredom.

He has been really unwell in the last couple of days lots of throwing up, now we are both better i am glad to take him out again, he hated being stuck inside.

Biggem Thu 25-Oct-12 09:56:07

When my dd was that age, the only groups I could get to always fell on her morning nap time, so if I went she was mardy and inevitably fell asleep an if I didn't go I just felt guilty! Motherhood!!wink

valiumredhead Thu 25-Oct-12 09:57:26

You are an adult, you get to decide how to spend your day! It was very liberating when I realised that!

SunshineOutdoors Thu 25-Oct-12 09:58:02

Yes, unfortunately I am serious. I think being a sahm who's been constantly overtired for about the last, um, 14 months has made my sense of proportion go a little out of whack. I love having mumsnet to put things back into perspective though.

Friend has said she could meet at <whispers> soft play this afternoon, so I'll pay for my laziness this morning later.

BloodRedAlienReflux Thu 25-Oct-12 09:59:13

Ha ha cheekypickle thought some weeks you literally lived for baby groups!! Now that WBU!!

SunshineOutdoors Thu 25-Oct-12 09:59:30

Ok, morning group ditched in favour of going shopping for a pair of winter boots for me at lunchtime. She'll love it grin

WhispersOfWickedness Thu 25-Oct-12 10:02:07

Definitely don't wake her. I love going to groups as I find it very stressful to stay at home but I know that I'm going for my own benefit mostly, it's only since DS has been 2+ that I can see he gets a lot out of it and needs it as much as I do. Dd is 14 months and wouldn't miss it if we didn't go.

BitOutOfPractice Thu 25-Oct-12 10:21:24

Never. Wake. A. Sleeping. Baby

HTH grin

Whistlingwaves Thu 25-Oct-12 10:29:35

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Whistlingwaves Thu 25-Oct-12 10:32:03

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Chelvis Thu 25-Oct-12 11:23:54

My 15mo DD naps 10;30 - 12:30 and I don't have a car, so I can't take her to ANY groups locally at the moment (they're all mornings around here) - it hasn't affected her development one bit, she plays well with other children when I meet up with friends or go to soft play/the park, she chatters away and she is happy! They are really for parents I think until they're well over 2 and can join in with crafts/games etc

Firawla Thu 25-Oct-12 11:26:09

yanbu she will go tomorrow, let her sleep
i am about to miss a group too, although i feel a bit more guilty as this is only one every 2 weeks and i hardly go to groups these days - but ds3 just gone to sleep and there is no way i am waking him up as he's not well and has been so clingy and moany so he needs the sleep

Softlysoftly Thu 25-Oct-12 11:30:25

Actually on this theme I think too much rushing around can be a bad thing to stay sane entertain DD1 I go somewhere every day, now I have DD2 and need the odd day in DD1 asks where we are going and looks confused when I say nowhere!

Floggingmolly Thu 25-Oct-12 11:33:26

You are talking about just this one day, aren't you? confused
What do you think the consequences are likely to be? You are vastly over thinking this.

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