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To be annoyed with dh, 2nd night out in a row

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Kingcyrolophosarus Wed 24-Oct-12 21:17:48

Prepared the dinner last night, he phoned said he was out with clients
He told me he would be home for dinner tonight, but had to meet someone(business) for a few drinks
Dinner from last night is now made
I'm just going to leave it and go to bed

valiumredhead Wed 24-Oct-12 21:19:44

Are you pissed off about it? Sounds like he's with clients from your post. I can't see the problem confused

ChickenFillet Wed 24-Oct-12 21:21:06

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trixie123 Wed 24-Oct-12 21:21:39

depends on what kind if job he does and if shmoozing clients is really part of it or if he's just using it as an excuse. Do you ever get a night out?

Oh and obviously, leave the bastard!

ChickenFillet Wed 24-Oct-12 21:23:05

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Kingcyrolophosarus Wed 24-Oct-12 21:23:52

Last night he told me at 4pm. He came in at 1am
Tonight he told me at 5.30pm, said it would just be an hour or so, haven't heard from him since. Tonight is someone in the sane business(networking)
We are going away tomorrow, won't see him for a week

MrsWembley Wed 24-Oct-12 21:25:04

I'm with valium; what's your problem?

ChickenFillet Wed 24-Oct-12 21:26:26

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Kingcyrolophosarus Wed 24-Oct-12 21:28:43

Me and DS going away

He is tired and moody and miserable
He was hungover today, so I guess pissed last night

I'm just fed up, it's all about work, then he sleeps all weekend

MrsCantSayAnything Wed 24-Oct-12 21:28:50

It's life....clients have to be seen sometimes. Unless you think he's lying?

AThingInYourLife Wed 24-Oct-12 21:29:17

It's pretty inconsiderate to let someone prepare a meal for you and not show up to eat it two nights in a row.

Once is a bit rude, but twice is pretty shit.

ChickenFillet Wed 24-Oct-12 21:30:25

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Kingcyrolophosarus Wed 24-Oct-12 21:32:36

Yeah, he's stressed, depressed, moody, tired, irritable
I've been supporting him for years
I'm not giving him a hard time. Just wondered what people thought

NotMostPeople Wed 24-Oct-12 21:32:58

Dear God you'd have a coronary if you were married to my DH. Meetings with Clients, speeches, conferences, management meetings, having a chat about important things at work often take place in the evening and over a few drinks and at short notice. I'd prefer him to be here but the important thing is that I always know that he'd prefer to be here too, it's just how work is.

aldiwhore Wed 24-Oct-12 21:33:21

Net working can be addictive and destructive. It can be crucial to success, if his networking - socialising - family ratio is out it will cause problems.

YANBU if this is becoming excessive and has gone on for a while with let up in sight.

YABU if this is simply a busy time and he doesn't overdo it too often.

Many networking events end up in a piss up, but you simply can't do that every night, have a family, friends and no problems, he needs to do more targeted networking perhaps.

ChickenFillet Wed 24-Oct-12 21:34:31

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JaxTellerIsMyFriend Wed 24-Oct-12 21:37:07

king you could be me at the moment. DH work is horrendously stressful and busy at the moment and his days are often 6am-1am with continuous meeting and evening events that must be attended.

I dont mind as I know that he would rather be at home with me and the DC than out 2 or 3 nights a week. Unfortunately that is just how things are at the moment and it will balance out again. He can work from home sometimes which helps, but I do understand that you feel annoyed/cross/peed off.

Kingcyrolophosarus Wed 24-Oct-12 21:38:59

Notmostpeople, that's what it's like.
Plus, travel worldwide for meetings, new business
He's out 3,4,sometimes 5 nights a week. Business and pleasure
I get it all, all the issues, politics, new managers, staff not pulling their weight

Usually it doesn't get to me.
I'm annoyed because I've taken stuff out the freezer, prepared dinner. Put it all on hold, to do it all over again tonight

Kingcyrolophosarus Wed 24-Oct-12 21:40:20

Chickenfillet, I'm easily pleased, don't need much support

Kingcyrolophosarus Wed 24-Oct-12 21:41:18

I had first counselling appt on Monday, and all I did was rattle on about him
It's all about him

ChickenFillet Wed 24-Oct-12 21:42:04

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ChickenFillet Wed 24-Oct-12 21:43:02

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theredhen Wed 24-Oct-12 21:45:13

Sounds like you feel undervalued and not appreciated?

What does he say when you try and talk about it?

Kingcyrolophosarus Wed 24-Oct-12 21:45:58

His stress, anger, depression, issues has in turn sent me to the GP for depression and anxiety, hence the counselling

Kingcyrolophosarus Wed 24-Oct-12 21:47:40

Oh, he's apologetic
But nothing changes

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