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to think this Facebook boasting every Paren's Evening is pointless?

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eachpeach11 Wed 24-Oct-12 13:15:06

So every parents evening we get the "... is a very proud mummy". Ok so perhaps with older children this is valid. However, I have never know a Primary school child to have a really negative report. (Although I am sure some do).
So surely this boasting really doesn't mean very much.

SingingSands Wed 24-Oct-12 13:17:02

That's why I like it on Facebook - much easier to ignore! In the 'olden days' you had to endure this kind of thing face to face. Much harder to ignore!!

ReallyTired Wed 24-Oct-12 13:22:23

lol.. our parents' evening we got told that my son needs to do more work in class and a kick up the back side is required.

RobotLover68 Wed 24-Oct-12 13:23:19

YANBU - it's so boring

Arf @ Really Tired

GossipWitch Wed 24-Oct-12 13:27:33

I dread parent's evening the only good one I have ever had is from the baby who is 4 now that was last years, at nursery, my eldest's (10yrs) I find I am picking apart the parents evening to find something positive, it rarely happens.

freddiefrog Wed 24-Oct-12 13:28:06

YANBU. It's boring

It was our parents evening yesterday. Cue a barrage of ' a very proud mummy' posts on FB last night.

VonScareBurton Wed 24-Oct-12 14:43:53

' a very proud mummy' ??? Really?

Jeez, another good reason not to use fb! What bollocks. How twee.

hattymattie Wed 24-Oct-12 14:46:59

Can't believe it - thank god I'm in France. I avoid being FB friends with people who live locally - it avoids this sort of potential encounter.

LizLemon030 Wed 24-Oct-12 14:47:16


we have 'sten' tests here and the parents are told not to share the information. my child did well, but you're encouraged to keep that to yourself. discussing it would be a bit like saying how much you earn. well, not quite that bad, because some mums I am friendly with - we did share our children's results but we know we aren't a bunch of boasters.

gordyslovesheep Wed 24-Oct-12 14:48:42

I don't understand why we aren't allowed to be proud of our kids though? How sad!

I posted exactly that on FB yesterday because I was BLOODY proud of my three and I refuse to ignore their achievements

LizLemon030 Wed 24-Oct-12 14:50:56

don't ignore them, but don't rub them in my face either. I long to tell people boasting about their children's 8s or 9s that my dd got a 10, but i keep it to myself. For two reasons, one, it would be egregious to boast like that and two, because my younger child won't be doing so well, so what do i do then! 'boast' about 6s? confused better to just enjoy the information privately.

fluffywhitekittens Wed 24-Oct-12 14:51:53

If I'm pleased and proud that dd has done well then I will put a brief line on Facebook.

2teens2tots Wed 24-Oct-12 14:55:59

I boasted about mine because I am proud, and yes I am mummy thats what they call me.

ABatInBunkFive Wed 24-Oct-12 14:56:32

posting on FB is hardly rubbing it in someones face though.

I'll post if any of them do something worthy of a mention, if people don't like they know what they can do.

Equally i'll post if they are getting on my nerves, i'm an equal opportunities FB poster. wink

pongysticks Wed 24-Oct-12 14:58:53

Oh dear, I'm with you OP it's grates on me, but I think in truth I don't post about my children on FB unless its something funny.

VonScareBurton Wed 24-Oct-12 14:59:47

Exactly Liz .

There are so many things that make me burst with pride about my ds. I certainly wouldn't feel the need to rub it in other peoples' faces. I don't need random parents at school knowing why I'm proud of my son. I just need him to know.

D0G Wed 24-Oct-12 15:03:23

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

VonScareBurton Wed 24-Oct-12 15:13:53

That's a world apart, D0G .

I would love to hear that, it brought a lump to my throat just as I read it. How lovely.

My nephew has similar problems, to think one day he may acheive like that fills me will hope. Well done littleD0G.

Vaginald Wed 24-Oct-12 15:29:10

If I'm proud of my dc a "well done, you've worked so hard" said to them- is much more productive than writing "omg, so proud of my baby, he's doing so well at school!" to noone in particular on fb!

twofingerstoGideon Wed 24-Oct-12 15:37:06

Drives me mad. Be proud of your children, tell them you are, and then keep it to yourself, please!

GhostofMammaTJ Wed 24-Oct-12 15:41:12

I am 'friends' on FB with a lot of my DPs relatives. I don't talk to them for many reasons, but to give them their due, the really do care about my DC. I post for them. Why would that be a problem for anyone else?

KellyElly Wed 24-Oct-12 15:46:17

Some people have extended family and friends who they don't see/talk to that much and fb is a good way of keeping up with lives/kids/general stuff without having to call/text loads of people when you have some nice news to share. Personally I love hearing updates like that and don't see it as boasting, just see it as a parent being proud of their child as I'm not a mean-spirited person. If you don't like it don't use it. I just have family and friends on my fb so we all enjoy reading each others updates as often life is too busy to catch up as much as we'd like. It is ok to be proud of your children and their achievements and it is ok to share it with people who are interested to hear about it. Why the hell not?

LRDtheFeministDragon Wed 24-Oct-12 15:47:46

I like it. A one-liner like you quoted sounds fine to me.

Hemlet Wed 24-Oct-12 15:49:19

Facebook is for exactly that sort of thing.

Tailtwister Wed 24-Oct-12 15:51:35

I don't see what's wrong with saying you are proud of your own children tbh and FB does seem to be widely used by family and friends for keeping in touch.

I do however find it irritating, which is why I don't use FB and stay away from blogs etc. If someone goes out of their way to boast directly to me then I just smile, nod and say 'you must be very proud'. Not difficult and it diffuses the discussion asap.

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