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to tell dd she can't go on sleep over at frends unless she does her maths homework?

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ontheedgeofwhatever Wed 24-Oct-12 11:40:02

DD (year 2) has quite a lot of homework this half term - 2 books to read, comprehension sheet for one of them, 20 spellings to learn an 8 line poem to learn and a 7 page booklet of maths. She will NOT do any of the maths though has done quite a bit of the rest. The mere mention of maths results in a tantrum.

She's been asked for a sleep over at her best friends tomorrow night. AIBU to say that she's got to do at least 4 pages of her maths or she can't go? You would think I'd asked her to pull out all of her own teeth. I've offered to sit and help her with (not do it but make sure she understands it) but its no good

I do not want to spend the last afternoon of the holiday in maths homework hell

Please don't turn this into a debate about whether 6 and 7 year olds should have homework that's a whole other thread.

Dancergirl Wed 24-Oct-12 11:41:25

YABU She is 7 FFS

Sure way to put her off education for life.

Shesparkles Wed 24-Oct-12 11:41:59

To be honest, if its homework which had been set for the holidays and she's not falling behind in class, I'd be sending it back to school not done. Lots of people have their main or only holiday at this time of year and that's what it is-a holiday!

sununu Wed 24-Oct-12 11:43:35

I think that's perfectly reasonable, we have that approach - get the things you need to do out of the way then you have the fun as a reward. or, say she has to do a proper stint at it and if not finished you will put a note to teacher to say too much/too hard for her.

WereTricksPotter Wed 24-Oct-12 11:43:37

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

numbum Wed 24-Oct-12 11:43:44

I think it's a bit mean but if you've already said it then you'll have to follow through with it now.

It does seem like an awful lot of homework though. School holidays should be fun (with some sneaky educational bits that they don't realise are educational!)

Mrsjay Wed 24-Oct-12 11:48:41

I think you are being a little bit U I realise how frustrating homework is but let her go and deal with the homework when she gets home it is only wednesday she can have it done by the time she goes back to school

Mrsjay Wed 24-Oct-12 11:49:31

OH if you have already said what she has to do then follow through with it don't give in,

Scholes34 Wed 24-Oct-12 11:53:21

Now you've said it you have to follow it through.

Very mean of the school to set so much homework in the holidays. At my DCs' secondarly school, Years 7, 8 and 9 can't now be set homework during the holidays. More than enough the rest of the time, though.

ExitPursuedByAaaaaarGhoul Wed 24-Oct-12 11:54:56

I would make her do it.

I am mean.

ontheedgeofwhatever Wed 24-Oct-12 12:02:25

shock She's just come and shown me a completed page and its all right without any help from me.

Looks like someone wants to go on a sleep over

I do agree its a lot of homework. Chances are if I can get her to do these 4 pages I'll relent and put a note in for her teacher about the rest but not telling her that yet. She loves reading and comprehension but she's a bit like her mummy and sadly not keen on maths

Dancergirl Wed 24-Oct-12 12:06:19

Indie school with 2 week half term right?

shewhowines Wed 24-Oct-12 12:07:31

YANBU. Why not if it saves you both from a nightmare later on. The homework will still need to be done so you are saving both of you later angst.

BackforGood Wed 24-Oct-12 12:09:21

I came on here to say 'Of course YANBU', assuming it was a 13 yr old you had.
However, completely different story with a 6 yr old. Poor little thing. The school should understand the childrens need to rest and relax in this term in particular, not ruin their break with piles of work.
Knowing she is in Yr2, then, IMO, YABU in not saying this to the school.

Mrsjay Wed 24-Oct-12 12:09:31

I think it is too excessive that is loads of homework she is on holiday fgs but maybe your incentive has worked and given her focus smile

TakingTheStairs Wed 24-Oct-12 12:11:57

She needs to learn that homework must be done. It's not as if she doesn't have plenty of time to complete it ahead of the sleepover.
Do not relent and let her off the rest of the pages if she gets 4 of the 7 done. You would be undermining her teacher and giving her the impression that school work is negotiable. It shouldn't be.
If she managed to get one page done in the 20 minutes between your first post and your last post, then getting the four pages done ahead of the sleepover tomorrow is more than reasonable.
And she can easily do the remaining three over Friday - Sunday.

Startailoforangeandgold Wed 24-Oct-12 12:32:05

Personally I'd send her to a different school!

Y2 is infants except for reading it is a No HW zone.

Revel instead in the fact that you have a DD who is confident enough to want to go on a sleep over at 7.

Startailoforangeandgold Wed 24-Oct-12 12:37:46

Seriously this term is always very hard going.

They catch bugs, hate the drizzle and hate the nights getting darker. HW really isn't necessary.

I'm happy to say Y7 have realised this, as DD2 has had enough.

Y10 have got HW, but that I suppose is unavoidable.

Well it would be avoidable if we went back to proper O Levels without this controlled assessment rubbish, but that's a rant for Nother thread.

ontheedgeofwhatever Wed 24-Oct-12 12:53:30

She's finished and apparently it was good fun confused

She has now gone to pack!!!

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